Originally posted by heyo
confidence can be measured and "flexed". when you feel yourself becoming more confident, measure your mind.
make it the path more taken, at least in memory.
use that memore then to bring on the instance during which you were more confident.
.....it's almost the same as a testosterone rush but more controlled and less pervasive.
It's interesting that you know what your talking about, yet at the same time have no idea that you are talking about a serious scientific art form.
You practically hit the nail on the head, and didn't even know you were holding the hammer.
On a side note, and partially satirical note... Omega, are you an "indigo"?
Back on the serious note.
What the OP and perhaps some of you other people may be looking for is a combination of both Neuro Linguistic Programming, and self hypnosis.
If you guys are at all interested in drastically improving your life, and not just talking about. Buy my book, it's only $19.99. Just kidding. You
can google search NLP and find a variety of books, the one that I read that introduced me to the field is "Introducing NLP: Psychological Skills for
Understanding and Influencing People"
Back to someones question about approach anxiety. The reason humans have this trait is deeply rooted in our past. Humans didn't always pack into
cities of millions of people. Civilizations were much smaller. Once you eliminated the elderly, the immature, the sick, and the taken, men were left
with very few women to choose from.
Thus, if one were to spectacularly fail with one women, she will no doubt tell her peers of your inadequacy. This could lead to not finding a mate.
Additionally, you took a big risk if that women was taken by a much stronger man, or someone with many friends, and it could actually be your life at
stake. That's why we've developed this essential survival mechanism. It is much safer to say nothing, than risk everything. At the same time,
without risking anything, you never gain anything. Of course, it's harder to understand this now a days as over just a few centuries we've begun to
pack ourselves into highly populated areas, we have the luxury of being able to fail without the repercussions, yet our minds won't let us because of
the outdated fear.
Back to NLP. The field of NLP (as well as self hypnosis, or if you have the money - guided hypnosis) you are looking for is called Anchoring.
When an anchor is fired it brings up an immediate response that we have subconsciously programmed into our way of life. We all have anchors, most just
fail to recognize them. Words such as Love, or Sex, or Secret, usually draw a response when we hear them. Anchors are used every single day by
advertisers to make you feel a bond with their product, while you know nothing about the product or it's manufacturer. So that when you walk down the
aisle of Wal-Mart, you can identify with it, trust it, and purchase it.
But just as easy as we can acquire anchors we can also change them. With google at your fingertips, you don't even really have to buy a book. But the
book I mentioned has a lot more than just Anchoring. With a better understanding of how people are receiving your communication, and interpreting it,
can impact your life in a vast variety of beneficial ways. Love, business, friendship, all can improved by improving your communication.
It's surprising to most, that a very small percentage of communication in real life is done through words, the majority is done through body language
- whether we understand that or not, our subconscious is a very busy entity. The best part is, is that it's free to learn and try, for those who take
the time, it benefits them forever.
For those who need the help, having a trained hypnotherapist can drastically speed the time it takes to modify your anchors - but is in NO WAY
necessary. Most commonly, you will be using the Swish Technique to remove an associated feeling with a certain anchor, replacing that feeling with one
that bring courage and bravery can be accomplished, and most likely will change your life for the better.
I hope this has resolved some of ToughIv's questions. But additionally, if finding a girlfriend and experiencing love is something you want to do
before your number is called. Then perhaps you should look into courses by Pick Up Artists, namely Mystery. Though these may cost some money, learning
how women think will
get you a chance with the girl of your dreams. Looks mean nothing, it's how you package yourself and present it. Time and
time again, pick up artists, most of which are not handsome what so ever, can walk up and get the number of any girl they desire, no matter how
gorgeous they are.
DISCLAIMER: Improving the way you go about your life may and most likely will improve the quality of your life. Learning methods of self improvement
may and most likely will cause any one of a variety of side effects, including, but not limited to: Increased Happiness, Wanting to get out of bed in
the morning, better success at work, improved relationships with friends and family, easier management of social situations, ability to associate and
communicate with the opposite sex, additional sun exposure. You have been warned.
EDIT TO ADD: Now that I have actually thoroughly read ToughIV's posts, I can firmly say that every single possible thing you desire can be achieved
by following the tracks I have laid out in this post. Good luck.
[edit on 4-8-2009 by king9072]