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Originally posted by Death_Kron
Oh yeah, forgot to mention Roger... violence is slapping your child on its wrist to prevent it touching an open fire?
Jesus mate, if you controlled the world we would all be in trouble...
Originally posted by BarryZuckercorn
Originally posted by jfj123
Is this FINALLY clear enough for you to understand or are you going to continue deliberately misrepresenting what I'm saying?
And
DOES THAT ANSWER YOUR QUESTION?
It seems like you have lost your temper.
You seem to have learned to react with emotional violence when you become angry.
Quite possibly this has to do with your conditioning, i.e. being spanked as a child.
When you hit your child you are teaching them that any frustrating situation can be resolved through violence and aggression.
I and the others on this thread who are disagreeing with you are causing you frustration.
As a result you are resorting to the digital equivalent of shouting;
That's aggression.
The next step, provided we continue to disagree, is for you to use some form of violence to shut us up.
No-one is misrepresenting you, either.
You are advocating striking children as a form of punishment.
Originally posted by mnmcandiez
Originally posted by stovsa
I am currently teaching year 7 and 8 music at a few different high schools in Australia. Let me just say I starred and flagged this thread purely because of the thread title. Please people discipline your kids thoroughly, maybe it's just that I cant remember how horrible I actually was in school or its the fact that kids today really are getting more nastier but I tell you, my job can be a nightmare at times!
Even though I teach a subject based on the arts with a lot of hands on practical work, listening, analyzing and research (all on topics they can choose), a lot of these young kids just CANNOT find anything to appreciate in music. It baffles me! The language, talk back and downright hostility I get just astounds me, and I'm a young 25 yo teacher, not some over the hill old nugget! I had a talk with my father this afternoon about the days when teachers could use the cain to punish unruly students. Let me just say it instantly brought a smile to my face! Boy I'd hit em good!
You shouldn't be a teacher if you want to hit other peoples kids. You are a stranger to them and it isn't up to your authority.
That's like correctional officers hitting an inmate if they yelled at them.
Originally posted by jfj123
This is just one example of how kids, teenagers actually are out of control due to a complete lack of discipline.
See, I still have my anger and rage
Originally posted by aorAki
Originally posted by jfj123
This is just one example of how kids, teenagers actually are out of control due to a complete lack of discipline.
See, I still have my anger and rage
I'm not anti-discipline, I'm just anti-violent actions and this includes smacking, no matter how you would like to dress it up.
There are plenty of effective non=violent disciplinary methods, but there are also a lot of lazy parents.
[edit on 29-7-2009 by aorAki]
[edit on 29-7-2009 by aorAki]
Originally posted by jfj123
Also, I'm more referring to teenagers who are out of control. The ones that are, simply don't respond to having their iphone taken away for a day or being grounded or losing car privileges for a week. Because of what their parents have done, simply explaining to them that their wrong DOES NOT WORK.
Originally posted by aorAki
I'm not anti-discipline, I'm just anti-violent actions and this includes smacking, no matter how you would like to dress it up.
There are plenty of effective non=violent disciplinary methods, but there are also a lot of lazy parents.
[edit on 29-7-2009 by aorAki]
Originally posted by aorAki
Originally posted by jfj123
Also, I'm more referring to teenagers who are out of control. The ones that are, simply don't respond to having their iphone taken away for a day or being grounded or losing car privileges for a week. Because of what their parents have done, simply explaining to them that their wrong DOES NOT WORK.
Yes, but I see this as the failings of the parent as well.
You have to do the hard yards to get positive results. Being a parent is difficult, it is time consuming and it can be inconvenient at times.
lol I don't have an iphone, why would my kids?
[edit on 29-7-2009 by aorAki]
Originally posted by TheColdDragon
Your failure at taking into account that PEOPLE are different (And Children are people) means that your statement cannot, in any sense, be considered true.
Originally posted by jfj123
The reality is that parents, for the most part, are not teaching their children that there are meaningful consequences to their actions.
Originally posted by aorAki
Nowhere have I said that everyone is the same.
Nice assumption.
I love the way people are willing to defend violence against children, at any cost....yet when I say I am against violence and that there are plenty of other acceptable and efficient means of discipline people show their true colours.
Yes, I realise that people are different, but I also realise that violence gets one nowhere, fast, and that (to paraphrase the 'good book') violence begets violence.
But that's fine, you can defend you 'right' to physically abuse your children. Just don't expect me to agree with you (much like I have accepted that you won't agree with me).
All the educators in my family agree that violence is not good and smacking is a backwards and often desperate consequence of one's own shortcomings.
But hey, don't let that get in the way of you giving your kids a good smack. Bet you feel big about it too
[edit on 29-7-2009 by aorAki]
Originally posted by TheColdDragon
Ahhh, educators. So, do I hold you and your family responsible for the rampant stupidity and abysmally mind-twisting idiocy of the modern youth?
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Originally posted by aorAki
Originally posted by TheColdDragon
Ahhh, educators. So, do I hold you and your family responsible for the rampant stupidity and abysmally mind-twisting idiocy of the modern youth?
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Nope, blame the parents. The educators have a hard enough time of it as it is.
Yes, I would call the police. Why wouldn't I?
Violence is laziness. It is ignorance and it breeds violence.
Originally posted by aorAki
Originally posted by TheColdDragon
Ahhh, educators. So, do I hold you and your family responsible for the rampant stupidity and abysmally mind-twisting idiocy of the modern youth?
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Nope, blame the parents. The educators have a hard enough time of it as it is.
Yes, I would call the police. Why wouldn't I?
Violence is laziness. It is ignorance and it breeds violence.
Originally posted by TheColdDragon
No, I blame you, the Educators. You aren't going to put off your lack of ability to educate children on the parents. You are an EDUCATOR, it is your job to teach. You're given lemons, make lemonade. Don't complain that someone didn't provide you with perfectly good apples.
Originally posted by TheColdDragon, if you are the type to call the police on individuals disciplining their children, then by all rights people should deservedly be allowed to beat the daylights out of your kids. You are forcing your view on the world and other people's children, so why shouldn't they be able to do the same to YOU?
Originally posted by jfj123
reply to post by aorAki
You'd call the police if a parent spanked their child? I'm not talking about a beating, I'm talking about a swat on the but to get their attention? You'd actually call the police and try to have the parent arrested over that? YES or NO?
Originally posted by aorAki
Then you obviously have no idea about the education system and how parents defer any responsibility for their kids with precisely that sort of attitude. All the good work one does teaching kids at school can be undone by a hand and/or bad parenting. don't go blaming it on the schools when it is the parents' problem.
Originally posted by TheColdDragon
This speaks volumes about you and why you consider violence to be a option.
In answer to the question. One is positive, one is negative and reinforces the option of violence as a reaction to a problem that one perceives they cannot change using any other method. I call it laziness, you call it a parent's right.
I call that bunkum.