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Originally posted by TheLoony
I know nothing, but I would NEVER go to a therapist.
Nope, not a gonna do it. I've seen Century of Self. Enough said.
Define normal healthy self esteem. I doubt I score high on the self esteem scale but I'm no emotional cripple.
I "believe in myself", but I'm also not going to try and tell you how damned great I am. I'm not. I just am I and that's all. I don't want to be a leader, make more money than God or some crap like that. I'd rather just have a small niche to grow food, maybe make some music and live my days out in peace. Fat chance of that happening.
I'm tired and not sure if I'm on topic or not. I'll post it anyway, see if it makes any sense in the morning.
Originally posted by OmegaPoint
reply to post by catalyst2466
Imo, low self esteem is just as egotistical and self absorbed as overblown self esteem.
After all, who is anyone to judge their own value or lack thereof, and it's a handy way to play the victim with "i'm not worthy" while secretly enjoying some form of payoff or self righteousness.
It's a technique for avoiding domination I think. People with low self esteem most certainly had a domineering parental figure, or worse a competitive parental figure who squashed and stepped on the childs gifts and talents.
I'm not trying to make anyone feel bad here, but it's a sin, given that the individual is of incaculable value.
Originally posted by woodwardjnr
reply to post by Skeptical_Seeker
Your post has summed up my situation very well. you have to surround yourself with loving people. It was very easy for me to start feeling sorry for myself. to not want to go out with friends, but that only made me feel sad. So i had to get myself back out there with people who care about me and encourage me. Learning to live with cancer has been tough, but has been made easier with great friends and family. Whenever i feel sorry for myself, I always think of those who are in a worse situation.
If i hadn't had the support Ive had i dread to think where I'd be right now