reply to post by MadDogtheHunter
This may sound harsh, but it's their home, their rules. Children can become unruly very quickly; trust me, as a parent of two teens I am well aware
No doubt you felt it was excessive. Quite possibly anyone outside of the Amish community would consider it excessive. But I also have little doubt
that the punishment was not intended to abuse, but to control.
As for what happened with the town cop, that's called 'clannish'. The Amish are not the only groups that distrust the police, and are also not the
only groups who will band together with each other to make sure those cops cannot interfere with their life. The whole history of my family and region
is full of tales like that: families and communities who are so distrustful of outsiders that no one not a member can get information. The cop wasn't
saying he had no authority; rather, it sounds like he was simply being practical. If he cannot even question those involved in a productive matter,
how exactly is he supposed to build a case against them?
Think about things from their point of view: They were babysitting a child. They have certain expectations, right or wrong, of how children should
behave. From the sounds of your story, you were probably being loud and refusing to quieten down when told to
. That's not a condemnation; it
is rather typical behavior for the majority of children. But the woman knew only one way to enforce her order to calm down: corporal punishment.
It is entirely possible that she hit you harder than she intended. The bat was plastic, not wood as I am sure they were used to using. It is entirely
possible that you bruised easier than their children; my wife is a person who is very easily bruised. She will get a bruise form the most minor
things; if I have a bruise, I was just hit with a flying 2x4. My son bruises easy, although not as easy as my wife. My daughter is hard to bruise.
Perhaps you bruise easily. It is almost a guarantee that the woman was physically stronger than the people you were used to being around, and yet she
probably didn't realize this, having not spent much time around others outside of her community. So you can't just say that the bruises were
As to the reaction to the cops, I myself go a bit defensive whenever I see a police uniform. The reason is a history of dealing with cops who were
more interested in throwing their weight around than doing their job. Oh, the stories I could tell you! So I am also defensive around governmental
authority. Should anyone ever approach my family in a similar situation, I would demand they leave as well. I would not cooperate. As a matter of
fact, I have told the head of our local DHR one one occasion: "You touch my kids and I will bury your ass on this mountain." She did exactly what
the cop did in your case: she left.
I don't want this post to turn into a battle over what might have, what should have, what could have happened. All I am saying that your memory has
simmered in a nice sauce of hate for many years. You surely remember the bad things that happened to you, while the details of why are probably fuzzy
at best. The welts have long healed. The woman who traumatized you can no longer hurt you, if she even still lives. Perhaps it is time to step back
and reassess your feelings. Hatred is a toxin as surely as arsenic is a toxin. It sounds to me like you have been poisoning yourself long enough.
Let go your hate. It's more productive than trying to use specious arguments to remove centuries of tradition.