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And what is it, really? how do you know when you have forgiven someone? You invite them over to dinner? You say you have? You pretend as though you have?
And if you pretend, then doesn't that make it harder?
If someone is truly, truly, sorry, then it makes it easier.
If someone steps on your toe in line at the grocery.
But what about the big issues? Murder. Rape. Genocide.
What if you say you do forgive to please other people, but in your private heart, you don't.
Do you find it easy to forgive?
I don't know why I chose to let him off the hook... in his own mind anyway. But if I didn't at least tell that merciful lie, would I be just as guilty of the same cruelty he inflicted?
Originally posted by TheMythLives
reply to post by Hazelnut
I have not heard that ttake in a long time and it is extremely valid. The only reason we do things is to make us feel good. Thats the number one reason, because we enjoy something, it makes us happy or it gives us a feeling that is unrivaled.
Forgiveness is the same. Again their are different levels of forgiveness.
Both can be simplified further, but those are the main ones. Its up to the person to decide which one he/she wants to use. Internal for your own gain, internal to truley let go, external to help someone, etx.. the list goes one and on.
Again forgiveness is not justa tricky word, the definition and cause is something not yet known.
reply to post by ladyinwaiting
lol, yes. Hold the damn phone!