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They never grow up, they don't respect you because you have no passions of your own, you become paranoid and weird.
What the hell are you talking about here? Becoming a good parent makes one paranoid and weird?
I dont even know how to respond to that because it makes no sense.
Originally posted by Donnie Darko
I've noticed that for the past 20 years or so, people in the Anglophone world have EXTREMELY high standards for parents, especially mothers.
When a woman has a baby, they are supposed to put everything, including their own well-being, down to a very distant second to being a mom. Not that loving your children isn't wonderful because it is and I hope to experience it someday, but come on, I'm not going to give up my humanity for it and be totally defined as a parent.
Besides, when you do that you are not really doing the kids a service. They never grow up, they don't respect you because you have no passions of your own, you become paranoid and weird. .
Originally posted by Donnie Darko
What I'm saying is American society expects people to essentially consider their children their God, and that's really not good for the kids because it teaches them to be dependent and narcissistic.
Originally posted by Donnie Darko
.... But I would still have other facets of my life, and they would not be "side dishes" to being a dad, they would be a side of me, and being a dad would be a side of me....
Originally posted by maybereal11
Agreed it doesn't entitle you to abandon who you are...you need to hold onto that to teach the child properly.
[edit on 1-7-2009 by maybereal11]
Yes. Agreed. Kinda a paradox though. I live for many things, but most of all my children. They are my greatest creation and contribution to the world. My most important work and if I was to borrow the language of artists...my immortality.
Originally posted by maybereal11
reply to post by Donnie Darko
Yes. Agreed. Kinda a paradox though. I live for many things, but most of all my children. They are my greatest creation and contribution to the world. My most important work and if I was to borrow the language of artists...my immortality.