reply to post by skyeyes
If someone can't stand for themselves, THEY have failed as humans. The only person somebody has that they can truly rely on 100% of the time is
themselves. If they can't take care of themself, at the very least, they shouldn't burden those that can.
We've seen too many movies where there's always a hero or a happy ending. That's not the world we live in. Worry about yourself first. Once you are
taken care of, then by all means go help the rest of the world but don't expect to change anything all that much.
You can't help anyone who doesn't want to help themselves. If they want to continue to be beaten, allow them to continue to be beaten and don't
lose sleep over it. If they don't want change for themselves, you can't give it to them. They are only victims the first time they are beaten, after
that, they are idiots.
There's no reason for a capable human to take on any extra baggage as their life is hard enough. If you want to help people, provide clothes or food
to those that don't have it and want it. Don't waste it by giving it to someone who has no clothes because they destroyed it all or has no food
because they threw it all away by choice is all I'm saying.
Help those that want to help themselves. In the not so distant future there will be 7 billion people in the world. Don't invest in someone who's
going to throw their chances away. Give that help you feel obligated to provide to someone who not only wants to turn things around, but would do
anything just for the chance, win or lose.
Not everyone is going to come out a winner (in fact most of the world won't) but you can't let the ones that have a shot miss out on it because
you're too busy focusing on a loser thats happy being a loser. They've accepted their situation and have no desire to change it. Case Closed, Move
on to someone you can reach.
For every so many people that hold pity party for themselves and think they are worthless, there are those special individuals that think "I deserve
better than this" (not to be confused with "I am entitled to better than this"). They might not ultimately better themselves but atleast they'll
die trying, which is more than you can say for most people.
edit: I don't want anyone to have the wrong impression that I might support violence against women and that women in abusive relationships "deserve
it". If the first time a woman is abused by her spouse she takes up a golf club or similar object and says "You call the police because you're the
one in trouble here", I'd be the very first to applaud in support. Just stand up for yourself. Don't passively wait for someone else to solve your
problems. At the very least alert the authorities but by no means should you just let it slide time after time after time.
[edit on 29-6-2009 by Eitimzevinten]