reply to post by peacejet
Trust me, though they say they love you and your partner. Deep in the heart, they will be sad that they dont have a mother. Your 18 old daughter will
not know about family life without the guidance of her mother. And your 13 and 9 year old son will be sad deep at heart when they see other kids
coming to school with their mother and not them. Children can be affected a lot emotionally.
Well PJ, alright, I told you I would explain to you in great detail, so I will.
First of all, they are not sad they do not have a mother, that is simply not true, and someone of your age, does not have the experience or the
understanding of family life to make such a vague point.
Secondly, My daughter does know what family is because she was raised in a loving and nurturing environment. She had a mother, she had two, and she
had two fathers. Me and my partner took on those roles. We provided the exact things that you state are necessary. Just because we are men does not
mean we aren't capable of adapting to the situation.
We are sensitive human beings, more so than your average "Macho Man". We show love like any other couple would. They do not know what it is to
have a mother, so they cannot miss it. And there is nothing to miss, since we provide all of the things that a mother would for a child, love,
compassion advise, the whole thing.
And by young children aren't sad when they see kids with their mothers, because they know that they have two dads who love them more than anything in
the world, that's something you can never take away, and is something far more powerful than the static mother/father roles we see in traditional
These standards you have for these things are there because you live in a society where these kinds of things are frowned upon. You are only 18 PJ,
how many kids have you raised?
How many kids have you seen grow up without parents?
PJ if you wanna go down to the base biological/evolutionary ideal scenario, than yes, all children should have a mother and a father. However,
does not translate to necessary.
It does not mean that we don't do just as good of a job as a mother would with her kids, than what I do with mine.
Another thing, is my children are surrounded by females all the time. I have a very large family, 6 sisters, and my husband has 4. They are always
around the children, talking to them, giving advice to them and spending quality time with them.
So you see, you do not NEED a mother for children to grow up properly, my children are at the top of all their classes, they are active in the
community, they are all musicians, they are everything you would expect a healthy child to be, in mind, body and soul.
The reason is because all you need to have good children, to raise them properly, is a LOVING home, that NUTURES their interests and shows them how to
treat other people with respect, how to treat themselves with respect and how to love one another.
That's it, it's an easy mix of things. I can't control what happens when they leave my door in the morning, and yes their environment outside of
my home will shape them in some way.
But you are wrong about my children, and you are wrong about what is required to raise children properly. You will understand once you have children,
and once you are old enough to travel and visit other societies, or when your's becomes accepting of homosexuals.
[edit on 6/28/2009 by tothetenthpower]