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When we met, she showed a wry smile on her face.
Since we were at a public clinic, she thought I was a doctor or someone from the Ministry of Health.
I related my story to her. She looked at me and revealed that she had since been raped on two other occasions.
She started crying. She told me how she often cringes when her husband touches her.
She told me that her life was never the same emotionally following these incidents.
Worse still, she was not ready to tell her husband of what had happened.
Finally, she said that she forgave me, and thought that I had meant well with
If you asked me: "What motivates so many men in South Africa to engage in un-consensual sex?" I would say that it is the machismo feelings and beliefs, coupled with patriarchal processes and tendencies.
Originally posted by Morningglory
reply to post by pieman
I agree with you. This woman was victimized again by this man imo. He is
free of his guilty burden but what about her? Obviously not if she can't tell her husband & cringes when he touches her.
I would say she is still working through the trauma and should not be pressured in any way by someone who hurt her so violently. Whatever is most beneficial to her healing should be the priority not what is most beneficial to this man.
If forgiving him was a step in the healing process that she needed she should have been the one to initiate it with the approval of doctors/family. Someone should have been present to support her.
No there's too many things I don't like about this.