posted on Jun, 24 2009 @ 07:13 AM
i don't think manners are dead, i think they are totally misunderstood.
the problem is, manners and etiquette are often confused. etiquette is the rules we use to govern our interactions in a social environment, manners is
knowing the rules and being able to apply, bend or break them in order to make the people around you feel at ease.
offering to buy someone a full drink because you spilled the last two mouth fulls of their pint by accidentally nudging their arm is etiquette. it's
the expected polite response.
manners is to refuse to allow a person buy you a drink saying "it could happen to anyone, no harm done" or similar, the refusal will make the person
who spilled it feel better about it and your company feel at ease.
nowadays, perfect formal etiquette (queuing for a life boat) could probably be considered bad manners.
To polite to just say "hey hang on a moment!! let me through"
try slightly tilting your head and shoulders in the direction you want to go, i bet within two people someone will stop and use their arm to create a
passage to allow you to pass in that direction.
[edit on 24/6/09 by pieman]