What Has Happened To The TRUE Friend?, page 3

Originally posted by ratcals

Originally posted by GorehoundLarry
reply to post by Greenize

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Sounds like someone needs a friend or a hug...

I kidd, but I know what you mean. I had a best friend and we'd hang out all the time, every day and tell secrets. Then he just stopped answering my phone calls or responding to me on facebook.

F you former friend.

When was the last time the two of you actually spoke? He might be going through something.

I was going to suggest the same thing

I've been on both sides of this one

if somebody suddenly just disappears - it could mean that something is going on with your friend that you have no way of knowing - and that for whatever reason they either can't explain - or just can't bring themselves to explain

reply to post by Sundancer

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Actually, I think you're right.

Any of you ever get annoyed with the level of mobile phone fiddling at parties?
It's insane - I hate it! Sure, there can be awkward moments of silence, but that's usually where it gets interesting; SOMEBODY has to break the silence!
Not so much anymore, people these days instantly zap out their iPhone and start playing some game, or checking their Tweets...

I often wonder if people are actually even using their phone, or if they're just acting it out in an excuse to not pay attention to the outside world for a second... then when their buddy is back with some beers the phone can go back on the table...

And what about meeting a potential boyfriend/girlfriend?

When I use the metro I always wonder how hard it must be for young people to hook up with someone, since everyone's on their iPod. No more need for "eh... ehm, it's a gorgeous day ain't it?"
Nope, the gorgeous girl can't hear you stutter coz she's listening to T-Pain...

So yeah, all in all I do think there's more shallowness and less depth in conversations these days, whether in an elevator, in the subway or at a party, simply because it has become acceptable to dive into your personal tech zone for the latest whatever update. It's easy to loose track of a conversation when people get buzzed by Twitter all the time, so we might as well just talk about the latest Tweets...!!!

Luckily for me I have a couple true friends I can count on both hands, my best friend being my wife, and we're all still old-school "turn your F'n phone off at a party" types.

Originally posted by LeoVirgo
reply to post by OmegaPoint

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That is why I really believe in making eye contact and smiling at people. Ya never know what kind of hope a smile can give someone....I have noticed in the South (where I live now) kids are taught verbal manners more so then my home state of Indiana.

When I moved down South I noticed complete strangers waving at me on the road or saying hi as we passed in the grocery stores. I was not used to this general friendliness but I have gotten used to it and it gives me a sense of security in a way of feeling like most of the people around here would help a neighbor.

lol, I grew up in the south. I've lived in both cities and the country. I started driving when I was 13(within certain distances). Most of the cops in town were my family, or I knew them real well. I didn't get tickets, I got whoopins.

I pretty much waved at everyone I passed by. If you are on a 2 lane road, then you just kind of wave to people as you go by. But it only happens on 2 lane roads. Multi-lane highways in cities and such, you'd never put your hand down.

And you better be honking if you drive by someone's house you know and they are home. Especially so if they are out in the yard or something and you don't have time to stop.

I really never thought of it as strange, pretty much everyone does it.

I'd say all friendships have their limits. And good friends come and go, it should be expected. I've had some really good friends over the years, and I haven't talked to them in years. It's not because they were never good friends of mine, but just because people grow apart over time. Interests change, need to move for jobs or whatever etc. Part of life IMO.

reply to post by Sundancer

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I believe to have a true friend, I must first seek to BE a true friend...what energy I invest in my friendships, is the energy I get out of those very friendships..."Some things must be seen to be believed in, while some things must be believed in to be seen..."..Do not bLAME technology for loss of genuineness in friendships..but our own lack of sincerity...I personally have had the opportunity to stay in touch with friends from long ago and far away...through..forums like myspace/facebook....in the words of one of my favorite authors Dan Millman/"Way of the Peaceful Warrior"...now in human history, it is of the utmost importance to blend/balance indigenous wisdom with high technology...the path is simple..it is the student that is complex.." a path worth considering..? False Evidence Appearing Real, F--- Everything And Run, or Face Everything And Recover..paradox, humor and change...may wisdom, courage and compassion continue to light our way peace light and love..namaste'

reply to post by Greenize

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You must be hanging with the wrong people?

I've always believed if you have even three or four real friends at the time of your death you are blessed.

The word friend is way over used today. People you cant trust are not friends they are acquaintances. They are fine to socialize with but they won't ever be anyone's real friend.

It works both ways also. If we want certain treatment we must give it first before we can expect it from others.

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