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reply posted on 14-6-2009 @ 11:21 PM by Bspiracy
reply to post by intrepid



Where I'm from, the common phrase everyone gives me from wherever I purchase something is "Have a good, nice, great, or whatever"positive" day.

My response is ALWAYS

"thank you, you have a better, nicer, greater or whatever is a STEP UP IN POSITIVE day"

This response 99.99% gets a GENUINE smile back to me and you can tell it makes that instant a good one for that person. I've seen some people in some crappy attitudes snap right out and into a better attitude because of it. Not to mention it invariably leads to a good conversation later.

GREAT THREAD

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reply posted on 15-6-2009 @ 12:23 AM by HiAliens
Great thread. I think helping each other out is one of the major lessons humanity needs to learn... otherwise we're in trouble. I think it's good to banter with people and make them feel good, but IMO it may be better to do some sort of practical act, like paying for tolls, food for the homeless...

- I made up some business cards with:
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Real news: www.infowars.com -
Real talk: www.abovetopsecret.com -
Real health: www.welikeitraw.com -
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________________________________-
...written on them. So now you can leave them around the place and free souls from the combine at 10 cents per soul. A card like that, with a cool design on it, dropped mysteriously by a stranger, might not just make someone's day, it could make someone's life

Maybe 80 out of a hundred people will throw them away, but what about the other 20?

We should brainstorm ways to make people have a good day for little or no money.

This thread is good:
Twelve Sandwiches Daily To a Better Future

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I have no desire to be friends with the guy who serves me coffee or even checks out my liver at the hospital...all I ask for is a reasonable level of competence and polite silence, ************** I think I'd go insane if I had to banter with everyone I ran across on a daily basis.


We all have days when we want to mind our own business. I feel like that from time to time. Headphones are a decent sign to people to keep/distance. I sometimes put mine on with no music just so I can do my own thing. Einstein said:

"My passionate sense of social justice and social responsibility has always contrasted oddly with my pronounced lack of need for direct contact with other human beings and human communities.


Maybe that's you, maybe you're depressed. I dont know, it's not my call.
Some days I find banter draining and irritating, sometimes it's uplifting and useful. I live in HK right now, Cantonese people gabble at each other all the time. On the other hand, commerce can be very brusque and impersonal. My general rule is I let people approach me.

And it's not about being friends with someone. It's just making the time go faster and increasing the joy in the universe by a couple of kilos. You don't get a taxi drivers email and invite him to your wedding after a 15 minute conversation, you just have a cool conversation and go on yr way, both a little enriched.

STO makes you feel alive and brings powerful results...

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reply posted on 15-6-2009 @ 01:19 AM by infobrazil
Originally posted by jokei
reply to
post by infobrazil



Aww man, I worked in retail as a student and that just annoys me, especially people paying in coins ~ unless it's a senior citizen, they can do what the hell they like.


Depends where you work. Some places have a scarcity of coins and they need them for change. Most people just use cards or paper these days... no1 walks around with coins...

Where there's a need, there's an opportunity.


reply posted on 15-6-2009 @ 02:05 AM by pai mei
The Indians in their simplicity literally give away all that they have--to relatives, to guests of other tribes or clans, but above all to the poor and the aged, from whom they can hope for no return.

It was our belief that the love of possessions is a weakness to be overcome. Its appeal is to the material part, and if allowed its way, it will in time disturb one's spiritual balance. Therefore, children must early learn the beauty of generosity. They are taught to give what they prize most, that they may taste the happiness of giving.

Ohiyesa (Charles Alexander Eastman) - Wahpeton Santee Sioux - 1858-1939



As a child I understood how to give, I have forgotten this grace since I have become civilized.

-Luther Standing Bear, Oglala


As Columbus wrote of the Arawak (before murdering and enslaving them),
"They are so ingenuous and free with all they have, that no one would believe it who has not seen it... Of anything they possess, if it be asked of them, they never say no; on the contrary, they invite you to share it and show as much love as if their hearts went with it..."

Was an intense acculturation process applied to Arawak children in order to override their inherently greedy, selfish natures and impose the desire to share?



Crazy Horse, Tashunkewitko of the western Sioux, was born about 1845. Killed at Fort Robinson, Nebraska in 1877, he lived barely 33 years.

As a boy, Crazy Horse seldom saw white men. Sioux parents took pride in teaching their sons and daughters according to tribal customs. Often giving food to the needy, they exemplified self-denial for the general good. They believed in generosity, courage, and self-denial, not a life based upon commerce and gain.

One winter when Crazy Horse was only five, the tribe was short of food. His father, a tireless hunter, finally brought in two antelope. The little boy rode his pony through the camp, telling the old folks to come for meat, without first asking his parents. Later when Crazy Horse asked for food, his mother said, "You must be brave and live up to your generous reputation."

It was customary for young men to spend much time in prayer and solitude, fasting in the wilderness --typical of Sioux spiritual life which has since been lost in the contact with a material civilization.


www.raw-food-health.net...

Gift economy:
en.wikipedia.org...

A hunter would share what he hunted because he knew that the others will do the same when they hunt something. As a group of friends. Being a good hunter was valued by that society, so people were proud to bring something to the group, to share what he had with others. That is what people seek.
What would you do with all the modern stuff you gather if there was nobody to share it with ? Or at least some people to see you ?





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reply posted on 15-6-2009 @ 02:42 AM by pai mei
reply to post by 2theC



We have internalized our masters, which is a well-known psychological response to trauma. When faced with overwhelming terror, the human mind splits, with part of itself modeling itself after the oppressor. This is an act of appeasement: "Look," the mind says in effect, "I am like you, so do not harm me." As a result of the civilizing process, together with this psychological defense mechanism known as "identification with the aggressor", we now hear the alien voices of the various representatives of civilization in our heads.


These ego-alien identifications, built up over the course of a lifetime, cohere and form a distinct, circumscribed personality, or false self, that represents and enforces the rules and regulations of civilization.
This false self is observable in the frozen facial expressions, stereotypic gestures, and unexamined behavioral patterns of the general public. This false self determines much of our everyday lives, so that we are seldom the origin of our actions.
We lapse into the false self at the first sign of danger, under stress, or simply because it is the path of least resistance. In this unthinking mode of social role playing, we internally reproduce our own oppression.


www.primitivism.com...



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reply posted on 15-6-2009 @ 03:03 AM by horsegiver
reply to post by TheOracle



Hi Oracle,
One thing I do that has worked well for decades is, when I go down to the Baker's shop for my wholemeal bread and the ladies say 'would you like anything else?' I usually say 'could I have one of your lovely smiles please', It never fails.

Good luck, and have a lovely day,

Regards,

Horsegiver.


reply posted on 15-6-2009 @ 03:18 AM by silent thunder
reply to post by heyo



I appreciate where you are coming from...you are obviously a good guy and yes, you probably could make me laugh or brighten somebody's day with your tactics. And I wish you well in all such endeavors. But don't forget...the right to opt out, the right to be left alone and not bothered, the right to be invisiable and to be detached...these are more highly valued by some than by others.

I have lived most of my life in East Asia. In some of the big cities there is a level of service that many westerners consider slavish or overly servile...they aren't used to having a waiter take off their coat and put it on for them at all but the best best restaurants, for example, while this is rather common in some parts of Asia. Several western friends have expresssed dismay over what they perceive as overly-servile relations between customers and staff in various situations. "How can they stand to be so groveling and fawning?" The answer is this: Because when he gets off work, the groveling staff member knows he'll be treated as a king when he goes out to eat or buy something. its just a different rhythm. Likewise, each place has its own rhythm of how to deal with strangers, clients, and service people. Don't assume everyone everywhere wants to be overly verbal all the time...is all I'm saying.


reply posted on 15-6-2009 @ 04:01 AM by OmegaPoint
reply to post by silent thunder



No, all you need to do it think inwardly "Namiste" - I honour the place in you which shares something of the place in me. Who you are BEING in relation to them, your compassion and respect for their person, their humanity, will shine though and resonate in your tone, your body language, and you'll be the one person out of many who actually treats them, as you would want to be treated. What you're saying without saying it, is hello, I love you.


reply posted on 15-6-2009 @ 05:54 AM by ItsallCrazy
reply to post by StevesResearch



It is indeed, the friendly side doesn't come out much when people are baring teeth fighting their corner as if the norm on here.

I don't even think I need to add a story to this thread, the way some of you guys live does you all a great credit and jus reading this thread has made my day!

It always makes me laugh cos I'm 6'5, 21 and nearly always wearing trackies, hoody etc (just purely for comfort) and with a near skinhead must look a little intimidating but people are stunned when I'm polite in stores and hold doors for people, pick things up that they've dropped in the street or whatever. I can never hold back the grin!

Honestly hope to come across more people like you guys in my travels

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reply posted on 15-6-2009 @ 06:38 AM by l_e_cox
reply to post by intrepid


I never really thought of this sort of advice as the "latest top secret technology for survival" but judging from some of the responses, it seems that even the fact that simple acts of kindness and a friendly attitude towards mankind are pro-survival factors in a society is being insidiously suppressed!

It does actually take a certain amount of courage to treat strangers with warmth and compassion, but it also takes a certain amount of courage to stamp out ignorance in a world on the verge of being handed over to the criminal element as their latest plaything.

If you're going to try to face something that's hard to face, might as well do it with a smile on your face and tolerance in your heart.
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