posted on Jun, 13 2009 @ 12:45 PM
I used to be in Real Estate. I worked hard, all the time. My Wife has a degree in Micro-Biology. She managed a lab not far from where we live. When
she got pregnant with our first, the plan was to have the baby, take some time off, then use day care, and get back to work. After two months of
staying home with the baby, the time had come to go back to work. Both of us drove to the day care center. I remember feeling very sad that day. For
at least 8 hours at a time, someone else was going to take care of my child. We got to the Day care center. I didn't like it. I was visibly upset at
the prospect of strangers watching my baby. I was late for work, and had to go.
When I got there, I started contemplating how we'd make it if I left and picked her up, never to return to work again. In fact I had almost summoned
the courage to do just that when My wife called crying her eyes out. She said "I couldn't do it! I just grabbed her and ran!". That day she called
her boss, quit her job and stayed home to raise her daughter, our precious little poo.
I could have supported them on my income, but I had no benefits. I left Real Estate, and returned to work at a Clinical Labratory in a local hospital.
The pay is half of what I used to make. But the entire family has medical, dental, and vision insurance for free. It was enough.
Two years later, we have had our second child, my son. My wife still stays home to raise and teach them. She has taken up photography, first as a
hobby, and is now working to make it a paying job. It's hard to make ends meet sometimes. But not usually. Once in a while things come up, that make
it hard to enjoy life luxuries, but we are happy.
We don't have Cable TV. We've never had a gaming system probably never will. We of course have a computer for my wife's photo editing, and my hobby
of making informative videos.
In the morning it's breakfast, books, and sometimes, a family walk. My daughter loves books, likes to color, likes to read us stories in her "baby
language", enjoys counting things, loves birds, and thinks fish are the most funny thing on earth. She plays in the dirt while her little 4 month old
brother watches every move she makes.
It's funny to me. I used to be so busy. I was more busy that anyone I ever knew. Even other Type-A business folks. I had money to make, advertising
budgets, clients, legal jargon, bills at home, debts to pay, food to cook, clothes to wash, a dog to feed, a child to cloth. Everything in my life was
a bill. For some reason I did not want to let go of that. I am glad I did.
The absence of Television got me thinking about kids in general. There is always a big problem with ADD or ADHD. I used to watch sesame street with my
daughter. It hit me one day. Every character on that show has ADD. Fuzzy little puppets flailing around like they just snorted a line. No wonder our
kids freak out. And it's not just that show either, a lot of childrens programming is incredibly overstimulating. Notice the use of Vibrant color in
everything designed for a child. All designed to grab attention, just watch any commercial for a new toy. Go figure.
I guess the point is, all that crap my wife and I were "so busy" with, was just that, crap. We lived in a world of self induced stress, and
personally manifested business. It didn't have to be that way and now, it won't.
We lost a little income, lost a lot of expensive distractions, and gained a comfortable loving home.
Good for you.
[edit on 13-6-2009 by aravoth]