Personally, I don't think adults can take a part in this discussion.
I am 17 (almost) so I will put myself in the top end of ages suitable of answering the subject at hand.
People can argue "We didn't have all these channels or videos games in my day, and we turned out fine." But there you highlight your own biggest
problem. "WE didn't have"; collectively a large protion of people 'didn't have' so life was different back then. I remember before DVDS came
out, people didn't watch as many films because the videos took more time and space, but they came out when I was very young and I moved with the
times, and still don't get how my parents watch so few films.
Life changes VERY quickly.
I have a computer with internet in my room, an xbox 360 in my room, virgin(similar to sky) in my room, (my own box separate from the other rooms of
the house), as well as books in my room. What do I want to do for a job, firefighter if I can, but I intend to go to university for media studies
and possibly follow that as a career instead.
Oh, yes, all those hours watching tv actually benefitted me, they could tbe the basis of my future career, all those 'mindless' shows could be my
But I still read, I would still rather hang out with friends than watch tv or sit on the computer, I generally play the xbox online with friends from
shcool, and if my computer is on my msn is on where I speak to friends from school. When watching tv, if I am not also on MSN at the time, I can
talk about what I watched the next day, often documentaries, often not. You can NOT say that television is anti-social.
I know you are trying to be a good parent, and I am not claiming you arn't because you are doing what 'you' think is right, and should not be
balmed for that. But she is not growing up into the same world you did, the wrold is very different from when you were a child, and well be very
different than it is now when she is grown up. Media media media, everything is going media crazy. News, entertainment, music,
education....media media media. And you are taking that away from her... Personally I do not agree with that and I think it is wrong. I also find
it hypocritical that you let her read books, when books and television do exactly the same thing, in different formats. They entertain, educate or
both. They are just as 'anti-social' as television is in the form that you are unlikely to talk to someone whilst reading or wathcing television;
though as I stated, I often use MSN to talk whilst my television is on, or talk if watching television with other people... this does not happen when
I read a book, I become encapsulated until it's finished, I don't talk to anyone whilst reading.
I also find reading educational books terribly boring, yet can watch a documentary on the same topic fine. Which brings me to another point, some
people will simply learn better form a documentary that a book, by rmeoving the television you may possibly (thougth I don't know your daughter of
course) be removing something which will turn out to be an easier way of learning for her.
Lets look at games consoles, now your child is a bit young for online gaming I shall admit. BUT, once you reach a suitable age for that, not only can
it be used to talk to friends, it is a huge team building tool. I was rather a loner, I shall admit, I liked (and still do) to do stuff by myself.
Then I got the game call of duty 4, and I played an online mode with two friends called 'team tactical' which comprised of two teams, each with
three people and differing goals. Now as I played with my two friends I always ended up on the same team as them, at first we were terrible and
always lost, but by the end of our days playing that game, we almost never lost a match, people knew who we were before we played them and
occasionally actually left before the game started as they did not want to lose. Now when we moved onto another game, we once again found that when
playing with other people, it was a slow start, but as soon as we played together again we won. Now you can not tell me that being able to wrok
as a team is a bad thing, but it took the xbox to teach me that. And yes, before then I had until very recently spent hours upon hours building
'bases' in the woods with my friends; but we all had our specific jobs, one always built, I always collected (because I am a fool and would do
stupid things to get what we needed
) , and a third milled between the two if we needed help. So we worked together, in a team of sorts, but
on the xbox, we learnt to wrok in an environment where we could all do the same things, where no one of us was so much better at one aspect that they
should clearly do it, we learnt to take it in turns, to adapt. That surely can not be a bad thing.
No longer are we in the days where a video game is running away from ghosts eating yellow balls all by yourself.
Also may I ask you a question, have you ever watched a youtube video for fun, used the internet to find or buy music, read a forum post that wasn't
research or about an educational topic such as this (i.e something similar to a post on the BTS forum), generally used the computer in ANY form for
entertainment? If not, then the below does not apply to you, if you have then read this next paragraph.
How can you deny your children their entertainment, yet keep your own? Can you not see the hypocrisy? 'It's okay, mummy can use the internet and
have fun all by herself on it, but you can't watch television and have fun.' over the top
But can you see my point?
Media is the future, not books I'm afraid, and you are cutting that off.
I THINK I have covered everything I wanted to, but I may need to edit the post, and of course, any questions or anything I shall answer.