posted on Jul, 23 2009 @ 09:58 AM
Hey op, this is a male here. I thought i'd try and pitch in and help.
From reading your title I sense you feel a little down about yourself, and that you are not happy with yourself. In order to do the greatest things in
this world, you have to know yourself, and love yourself before you can start going after the things you would like to you. Once you know and love
yourself, you start to take better care of what needs to be done in life, and you gain a little bit more confidence.
That is how you gain confidence fast in this world. You have to be happy with yourself and act normal. Then before you know it you'll find yourself
not being so nervous or shy around women. You have to look down deep inside your soul and ask your soul what do you need to do to improve on yourself.
Get the most important things done first in life for yourself.
Then that woman will come. If you have many bills at home stacked up on the kitchen table, don't worry about trying to go out and look for a woman
today worry about them bills.
You have to know yourself and trust yourself before you can know or trust anyone else.
Go workout, swim laps, if you want to cut up and be more attractive, but that's not always the case. Many women out there look for who you are as a
person instead of what you look like, those women are just hard to find but they are out there.
You should be able to tell quick who's out to get you and who isn't. If you can't trust someone ask yourself can I trust myself?
Don't get yourself caught up being nervous around woman. They pick up on that easily and sometimes it's a turn off for them. Because alot of them
are looking for a guy who know's what he wants and has all the answers and can do things for himself. Not all think that way but many. When you come
off nervous to them they think that your not confident in yourself. If you stutter or mumble or forget what to say, or don't have nothing to say at
all some think your just not "experienced" enough, or not directive enough.
Many women already know they can get who they want then they want. They have many options out there as they are the ones that chooses when it comes to
mating and babies.
So if they get a guy who knows what he wants in life, can take care of himself, can lead the way when he wants, and a guy that is nervous around them,
who isn't self confident, then who do you think they are going to choose?
If I were you, take care of yourself first. Get the most important things done in life first and while your doing that, the woman of your dreams will
As the Brittish say, Cheers mate!