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Different victim totals can be constructed from the national NCCAN data, and slightly different patterns over time can be found, depending on whether one sums across categories of maltreatment, gender of the victim, and so on, because some states provide numbers for some and not for others.
Originally posted by jdub297
reply to post by Jessicamsa
Story 1: If a battered mother can't protect herself, and "ends up in a shelter," how can anyone expect her to protect the child?
The legal standard for courts and guardians is "Best interest of the child," not what the battered mother wants. In many syates, placing a child in a dangerous environment is legally "child neglect" as either a misdemeanor or felony.
In my experience in the FamVio section of a major D.A.'s ofc., if a woman has been hurt enough to warrant rescue by a shelter, the child has already been hurt as well.
Originally posted by mystiq
OMG did someone actually write that. I have been through abuse, and in a shelter. This is not even a pretty issue, but is so common. No, the safety of the shelter must be FOR THE FAMILY AND CHILDREN.
That would penalize the parent even more for a very common behavior as spousal abuse is very common, and protection is about protecting the family. Children don't belong to the state, and no woman is a surrogate womb for it.
Originally posted by mystiq
One of the things to note here is, no one is responsible for another persons inhumane behavior, whether that person is your spouse, father, brother, or even in some cases, a child influenced by another group of lunatics. And the most common form of victimization that people endure, including murders, take place in the hands of someone you know. Protection is simply that, protection. Its not to punish victims.
Spousal abuse is very very common.
Originally posted by mystiq
reply to post by Jessicamsa
I feel really sorry that this happened, as its the lack of response and resources available that is sometimes even the greater crime. In my case, I had a death threat made against me, while I was pregant, and it was his friends that insisted that I go into the shelter for a while, though I kept the home and returned to it, until he calmed down. Its the lack of resources available that make women hide the abuse often.
Originally posted by Jessicamsa
Originally posted by mystiq
One of the things to note here is, no one is responsible for another persons inhumane behavior, whether that person is your spouse, father, brother, or even in some cases, a child influenced by another group of lunatics. And the most common form of victimization that people endure, including murders, take place in the hands of someone you know. Protection is simply that, protection. Its not to punish victims.
Spousal abuse is very very common.
Well, taking a baby away from a mother who just fled the home because the mother turned to a shelter for protection, sure sounds like punishment to me. And if she were to stay in the home, they'd use that as an excuse to take the baby too.
Originally posted by Jessicamsa
Well, taking a baby away from a mother who just fled the home because the mother turned to a shelter for protection, sure sounds like punishment to me. And if she were to stay in the home, they'd use that as an excuse to take the baby too.
Originally posted by jdub297I'm sorry for you, but your nation has always existed in reverence of a monarch and "royal" blood.
Our nation was built on the principle that the people are the sovereign, and government's 'power' is derived from the "governed".
Sadly, it seems we've begun to slide down a slippery slope toward domination, as well.
Stiff upper lip, you know?
Good luck.
jw
Originally posted by jdub297
reply to post by Jessicamsa
She needn't "end up in a shelter." That implies someone else's decision.
If she voluntarily exits to protect herself and children, there shouldn't be any need for CPS intervention.
But a woman who waits and endures until it is intolerable or life-threatening, or who is "placed" after outside intervention, is no longer in control and has, by definition, exposed her child to a dangerous situation.
Originally posted by Sestias
reply to post by jdub297
I'm a Yankee too, but IMO you're being too much "holier than thou"
when you condemn all of British social services and do nothing but praise ours.
Here in the good old U.S.A. until relatively recently there was a practice of sterilizing people who were considered too stupid or too mentally ill to have children. In some states it was expanded to include those who were on government benefits. This went on primarily in the 1930's and 40's, although in my state the sterilization of the mentally challenged went on until well into the 1970's.
We're not so greatly advanced from that.
For every case like the one you post that happens in Great Britain, I'm sure there's a similar story here. The societies are not that far apart.
Or is it just that England has socialized medicine and that's what you object to?
Originally posted by Jessicamsa
What you are therefore advocating is that every woman who enters a battered women's shelter have their children taken from them.
This is how the current system is set up. I have tried helping many abused women who were ignorant of the system and ended up losing custody because they didn't believe me. Then they get mad at me and I never hear from them again.