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But the most shocking statistic is less than 20% of women actually use their degree for a long term career.
Originally posted by mhinsey
reply to post by Amaterasu
I get some of your points. That is the crazy thing about abortion. However, I know many many couples that don't care about color of the child's skin. The major problem with children in state care right now stems from the fact that, at least in Alabama, the Dept. cares more about placing a child with their racial color than placing them with a family who would love them. If the GOVERNMENT would quit worrying about placing an Indian with an Indian family, a white kid with white or black with black then the issue would become a null point.
Yea, there are issues with deformed children. That is a hard route. I would have to consider that under medical necessity if it were diagnosed early enough. That does happen but the couple decide to have the baby anyway hoping for the best but not planning for the worst. For example, the parents think the baby will beat the odds for downs (which I personally don't see as a reason for termination since most downs children - that I have met - are the sweetest souls) but lo and behold, he or she has downs and the family breaks up.
Abortion is a personal choice. In a perfect world, there would not be this need for abortion. It's not a perfect world.
I don't think there should be a gov't enforcement of abortion or ban thereof. It is a personal choice. I just know what I would have to do.
As to Leo123. I personally believe ... well, you probably read the posts. Anyway, I have a real problem with men who can't keep it in their pants but it is the woman's fault she is pregnant AND THEN BAIL !! If men would worry more about being sexually responsible and less worried about feeling "natural" during sex then there would be a lot less "unwanted" children. Therefore, less need for abortion.
As I have said from my first post, if both parties had protected sex, most abortions would never need to happen - because it would not be a fetus to be destroyed.
Originally posted by marklance30
Does this not constitute "hate speech" like any other bigotry. Why is it OK to attach feminism with prejudice. Feminism by definition is simply equal rights for women. In my opinion, those who disagree, are intolerant. I expected more from you guys!
Originally posted by mblahnikluver
reply to post by leo123
But the most shocking statistic is less than 20% of women actually use their degree for a long term career.
I was just talking to my sister yesterday about many girls we went to school with. Out of all our female friends who went to college and got bachelors or masters dont even work now. They are all married with kids and the husband works. I was saying to my sister that's it's sad they did all that work and dont use it and even more the money some of their parents spent! I know that when I am done with school I will definitely use my degree to better help my family! I didnt pay my own way to do nothing with it.
Originally posted by Housemouse
Well, I agree with the initial poster. I have raised 4 children, and made the choice to stay at home when we women were being told that any woman who stayed home probably was just smart enough to read the back of the jello box.
And, right at that time, my father divorced my mother after 7 children and 28 years of marriage, then tried to manipulate her out of her share of the assets. I spent a lot of time trying to figure out if I should get a job/career to protect myself from something similar.
The final decision was to trust my husband and it occurred to me that to act as if he were not trustworthy might be a self-fulfilling prophecy. We shouldn't live our lives as if the worst will happen, and we should think of what is best for our children. I was surprised to discover that the teen years were when we needed to be the most attentive and involved.
Raising children is very hard work. I do think women should have a choice, but not at their children's expense. I told my daughter that she could do anything she wanted, but that choosing a career meant an unknown risk for her children, if she wanted them. They are not always compatible with careers.
That said, I sometimes wonder if the "birth control" pill is more to blame than feminism. Maybe the two go hand-in-hand in tearing down our social fabric?
Originally posted by mhinsey
Originally posted by Amagnon
reply to post by leo123
S&F - Feminism like racism is purely another way to confound free speech, and divide society against itself.
I do not live in a western country anymore, I am happy where I am - women are women, and men are men.
I am sure women for equality are happy for you, too.
Originally posted by Edrick
Look, Men and Women are Different... but NOT equal.
I keep seeing this "Different but Equal" debate over, and over again.
IT is a HORRIBLY meaningless statement.
IF two things are different, then they are not equal.
To claim that all characteristics that differ between men and women can cancel each other out in pro's and con's in an algebraic manner is quite naive.
Women are good at some things that men are not as good at.
Men are good at some things that women are not good at.
This does not MEAN that they are equal.
There can be no "Better" or "Worse" comparison here people, this is a fruitless, and uncivilized argument, or assumption.
Whenever A Woman claims that they are equal to men... I have only ONE REBUTTAL.
"AT WHAT?"
Seriously..... this is dumb.
-Edrick
Originally posted by heyo
reply to post by mhinsey
Your choice should be based upon what's best for the family, not just you. You think guys like working all the time? The point is that the feminist movement, imho (and i can't stress this enough), seems to think that women should just get what they want, whenever they want.
You're better at raising the family unit, admit it. Men play their roles but kids always want their momma.
Originally posted by leo123
Originally posted by mhinsey
Originally posted by leo123
Originally posted by mhinsey
It is about the CHOICE.
Exactly, and what is being pointed out to you is under feminism only women have CHOICE.
That's not equality.
It's funny you only quote that one little part. Don't want to get into the other part where I hold both parties accountable? Typical male chauvinism. Only defend the one little part. You do not want to discuss you just want to bash.
Ok bambam... go back to bashing the table. It's ok. Your mommy will pick up your spillt milk and cookies. Even if you are 30...living in the basement apartment... still single.... wondering why women won't date you.... calling up your friend Bubba for another cool Friday night of dungeons and dragons... or going to the bar bouncing your head like those two brothers from that skit on Saturday Night Live.
[Ok .. that made ME snicker!]
mhinsey:
Personal attacks don't fly with me, I am way too old for that and am having too much fun in my semi-retired years with the ladies in my life to pack any attitude.
What I am respectfully trying to point out is the irony in many of your comments.
For example look at your signature line. It's all about you and to hell with anyone else. Hmmm?
You want "choice", but are you willing to take full responsibility for the implications of your "choice"? Are you willing to equally value and respect the implications your "choice" has on other people?
Some thoughts.
[edit on 31-5-2009 by leo123]