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Originally posted by Chevalerous
Can't we all just be and behave like; human beings?
"All Human Beings Are Created Equal"
Ultra-feminist extremism is just as bad as ultra-macho extremism!
Let the boys be boys and let the girls be girls in a natural way without putting labels on them.
It doesn't matter if you are black or white rich or poor or a man or a woman, be a frikkin human being first!
I'm a man and I Iove women for what they are!
I love my mother and I want the best for her!
I love my sister and I want the best for her!
I love my ex-wife! and I still want the best for her!
I just want the women around me to be happy! and I'm trying my best to treat them as equals with love & respect!
If my sister is doing the same work as a man does, and even better sometimes, I support her opinion that she should receive the same pay for it!
I support the womens opinions and their rights about being valued equal to men in the society!
I support the womans right to decide over her own life without old outdated laws made by men and the patriarchical society to suppress her!
Does this mean I favor a matriarchal society?
No! I just want my society to be based on equal rights and common sence!
Is these opinions of mine, radical feminism ?
I would prefer to call them humanism?
Originally posted by Dark Ghost
Sigh, well I am not going to continue trying to show you why Feminism is bad. Your mind is made up and there is no point in both of us wasting the ATS bandwidth trying to show each other the reality of the situation.
What I will do is leave you with two scenarios that can be attributed to the advancement of Feminist ideology.
Situation 1: A group of elder, extremely rich males sitting around a table, placing dollar bills in the clothes of scantily clad female strippers. Drinks, food and sexual favours abound, one of the men says out loud: "Now, THIS IS Women's Liberation!" Followed by a long, prolonged roar of laughter from all the other men in the room.
Situation 2: A boy is sitting next to his mother at a train station. He asks her: "what does separating mean? What is happening to our family? Where are we going?" She tells him that she and his father do not get along any more and will live away from each other. But she emphasises that the reason for this happening has nothing to do with him.
"If it has nothing to do with me, why am I so sad?"
Originally posted by marklance30
Feminism by definition is simply equal rights for women. Equal rights, is that radical?
Look, this is not gender issue. Most women would love to stay at home and take good care of the kids (or men). Men and Women both are the targets of consumerism. Lets look to the marketing of a consumer driven society, and not to a human rights campaign. Feminism does not strive to lesson the quality of child care, it aims for equal rights. This is more likely the fault of distorted and aggressive capitalism.
Originally posted by heyo
Originally posted by marklance30
Feminism by definition is simply equal rights for women. Equal rights, is that radical?
Look, this is not gender issue. Most women would love to stay at home and take good care of the kids (or men). Men and Women both are the targets of consumerism. Lets look to the marketing of a consumer driven society, and not to a human rights campaign. Feminism does not strive to lesson the quality of child care, it aims for equal rights. This is more likely the fault of distorted and aggressive capitalism.
What rights do men have that women don't, I wonder? I can't really think of any. Does giving them special treatment (jobs to fill a quota, etc.) make them equal, or what? My belief is that the term male and equal are being confused. As natural bread-winners, males must work. So females become more like males to measure their equality. That seems...contradictory
A woman's success could, imho, be measured by the quality of children they raise (if this isn't important to people, then we're lost), and by how well they keep a family unit functioning. The problem could be that women see this as something they have no choice in. They do, yet if they just shut off the commercials and see how big a difference they're really making at home, a clear-headed woman will see they've been tricked, as has been pointed out, by, essentially, rich males.
There are exceptions to every rule. Some men are lazy, and can't be counted upon, and some women make horrible mothers.
One thing i also don't understand is that women these days (mostly in cities, or where money is most important, for some reason) want to be treated like men AND women. They have this sense of entitlement on both sides of the coin.
"treat me like a man, cause i'm equal, but you still have to be romantic and recognize my femininity when I feel you should", type thing.
In all the serious relationships i've been in, my better half didn't wear make-up, or even dresses really (also, they were All more educated than me). All I wanted was support, we need that, us men, eventually. Some more than others, but it all comes to us, and our parents deserve to be left alone. I'm talkinga bout being honest about something personal and how a woman's superpowers of understanding and compassion can change the mindset of any man. well me, anyways. that seems to be lacking in women these days. Or at the least, present at a much lower rate.
Originally posted by Zealott
reply to post by mhinsey
Oh you're so full of it. Hey.. If some girl lets me put my precious main brain into her special whatever the hell you referred to it as. That' s her fault. You pay the price not the man. (And this is an example of how your logic is so retarded.) It's her fault she CHOSE to have the kid and not abort it. And it was her CHOICE to not use the adoption option. Therefore she decided to raise that kid entirely on her own. No happy mediums.
The experiences of your life seem to have caused you bitterness. That is too bad.
My experiences have enriched me to look outside of myself and realize it it not just about me or even just about my family. To try to learn and understand the whole situation... not just my part within it.
Try stepping outside of that shell you have. It is better to love than to have never loved at all. Go a little slower and get the know the person better. It is not just about sex. However... WRAP IT BEFORE TAP IT ! !
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Edit for another thought. Suddenly you do not want to discuss it any further because YOU cannot change MY ideas. That is funny. This is a discussion or even debate if you wish. It was never about changing our minds... which is obvious since you wish to run because you do not have an answer to the questions I keep asking you.
Why aren't you debating the parts you do not respond about? Because you have no (intelligent) answer maybe?
[edit on 31-5-2009 by mhinsey]
a woman of intelligence who can take care of herself and doesn't need a man to pay her bills, take care of her children or dictate her life.
Originally posted by Dark Ghost
The experiences of your life seem to have caused you bitterness. That is too bad.
My experiences have enriched me to look outside of myself and realize it it not just about me or even just about my family. To try to learn and understand the whole situation... not just my part within it.
Try stepping outside of that shell you have. It is better to love than to have never loved at all. Go a little slower and get the know the person better. It is not just about sex. However... WRAP IT BEFORE TAP IT ! !
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Edit for another thought. Suddenly you do not want to discuss it any further because YOU cannot change MY ideas. That is funny. This is a discussion or even debate if you wish. It was never about changing our minds... which is obvious since you wish to run because you do not have an answer to the questions I keep asking you.
Why aren't you debating the parts you do not respond about? Because you have no (intelligent) answer maybe?
[edit on 31-5-2009 by mhinsey]
You know nothing about me or my history, so how can you determine that the experiences of my life have caused me bitterness? If you feel you are entitled to classify me as a "male chauvinistic pig" then I feel I am entitled to label you as a prudish Feminist donkey. Also, I am not American and don't know why you assumed I was. Do you think only Americans browse and contribute to this website? Or do you think that anti-Feminism is only prevalent in the USA?
a woman of intelligence who can take care of herself and doesn't need a man to pay her bills, take care of her children or dictate her life.
Glad to see you are enjoying the freedoms of Feminist empowerment. Will be interesting to see if you still feel the same when the SHTF. You know, when things like "women's rights" and "my successful career" will mean nothing when the basic human instincts are needed for survival. Will be very interesting indeed.
[edit on 31/5/2009 by Dark Ghost]
Originally posted by heyo
reply to post by mhinsey
Your choice should be based upon what's best for the family, not just you. You think guys like working all the time? The point is that the feminist movement, imho (and i can't stress this enough), seems to think that women should just get what they want, whenever they want.
You're better at raising the family unit, admit it. Men play their roles but kids always want their momma.
Originally posted by mhinsey
Originally posted by heyo
reply to post by mhinsey
Your choice should be based upon what's best for the family, not just you. You think guys like working all the time? The point is that the feminist movement, imho (and i can't stress this enough), seems to think that women should just get what they want, whenever they want.
You're better at raising the family unit, admit it. Men play their roles but kids always want their momma.
Actually I really suck at maternal instincts. That is why I don't have a child at this time. I didn't believe to be fair to a child to bring him or her in when 1) I didn't feel financially able to and 2) I am not maternal - ask the kids in my neighborhood I keep trying to run over the little stealing glass breaking heathens.
I understood the concept of moral and sexual responsibility and wrapped before it was tapped or at least took birth control.
For that matter, I have always loved men who were much more paternal towards children than me. It is just the way I am.
I believe in that phrase wrap before tap. It protects both parties from not only pregnancy but also lowers the rate of transmission of STDs. It means both parties are taking responsiblity for their sexual freedom.
I always thought it interesting that men thought it was ok to knock a woman up and leave her to drown in the after mess. That there was no moral or legal obligation for their sexual promiscuity but the woman had to take the full brunt of both parties sexual promiscuity. Technically, the woman was taking the male's responsibility as well as her own.
Originally posted by leo123
Originally posted by mhinsey
Originally posted by heyo
reply to post by mhinsey
Your choice should be based upon what's best for the family, not just you. You think guys like working all the time? The point is that the feminist movement, imho (and i can't stress this enough), seems to think that women should just get what they want, whenever they want.
You're better at raising the family unit, admit it. Men play their roles but kids always want their momma.
Actually I really suck at maternal instincts. That is why I don't have a child at this time. I didn't believe to be fair to a child to bring him or her in when 1) I didn't feel financially able to and 2) I am not maternal - ask the kids in my neighborhood I keep trying to run over the little stealing glass breaking heathens.
I understood the concept of moral and sexual responsibility and wrapped before it was tapped or at least took birth control.
For that matter, I have always loved men who were much more paternal towards children than me. It is just the way I am.
I believe in that phrase wrap before tap. It protects both parties from not only pregnancy but also lowers the rate of transmission of STDs. It means both parties are taking responsiblity for their sexual freedom.
I always thought it interesting that men thought it was ok to knock a woman up and leave her to drown in the after mess. That there was no moral or legal obligation for their sexual promiscuity but the woman had to take the full brunt of both parties sexual promiscuity. Technically, the woman was taking the male's responsibility as well as her own.
mhinsey:
So I guess this begs the question, do you have anything at all to offer a man?
Originally posted by heyo
reply to post by mhinsey
"...leave the mess.."
I agree 100%. Well 99%. Men who put women/children/the woman's family into sucha position should be prosecuted. Myself, my biological father doesn't know i exist. My dad stepped in tho when i was 1...off topic.
It's hard for men to have an interest in something they don't have a say in. If a man doesn't want a child, and the woman is pregant, and she wants to keep it, he is a slave to her wishes.
that is the 1% disagreement, because essentially he should've thought of that before he got it on with her not knowing...unless she was his girlfriend for a few months then they broke up for a couple of weeks and she didn't tell him she stopped taking the pill when they got it on and acted like nothing was up until he got a phone call a month later saying just an fyi i'm pregnant with your child and i'm not keeping it, click. lol...live'n'learn!
women, in this regard, have all the power, yet want only half the responsibility...of course, we all know that if a woman is made powerless in the act of conception it should be jail/death for sucha piece of slime.
Do you think it's a possibility that the capitalist movement (femenism being a part, possibly) could drown out the maternal instincts of women? It is difficult to be compassionate and successful in business, so such qualities would naturally be squashed because they get in the way of the goal: monetary success.
I'm just musing here, kind of bouncing off ideas, as you don't seem to take offense to my honest questions and i like that. I DO realize that there are exceptions to every rule, but how much of you is you, and not what you've been trained to percieve as you? a deep question for sure, and maybe i'm out of place in asking it.
Being raised in a small town, i was used to a different type of woman than what i knew. They weren't uneducated or unintelligent, they just.....compromised more.
Originally posted by leo123
Originally posted by Amaterasu
I am a feminist in the sense that I believe that I, and no one else, has full right to control of my body.
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Put another way, if you want full control of your body and all the choices during an unwanted pregnancy, why are you not willing to accept full responsibility for your decision?
Originally posted by Amaterasu
Originally posted by leo123
Originally posted by Amaterasu
I am a feminist in the sense that I believe that I, and no one else, has full right to control of my body.
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Put another way, if you want full control of your body and all the choices during an unwanted pregnancy, why are you not willing to accept full responsibility for your decision?
I'm a bit confused by this. What do you mean by "full responsibility?"
A great number of unwanted pregnancies are the result of the "father" abandoning the "mother." (I use quotes because, until the soul enters on the first breath, it is my considered opinion that no one is "father" and no one is "mother." I use the first breath as measure because so many scriptures worldwide state unambiguously that the soul enters at first breath, including in the Talmud as words from G-d, that same God of the Bible.)
So with the greater part of unwanted pregnancies occurring in a state of abandonment, what the woman does in that situation is hers alone (casting responsibility firmly on her).
In the cases where the "father" is at odds with the choices of the "mother," which are the least in terms of percentage of incidents of unwanted pregnancies - and a really small percentage at that - the "father" has as much responsibility as the "mother" in creating the pregnancy, and since it was into her body the issue was placed, she may choose what is done with it.
She has the responsibility.
So what do you mean by asking why a woman who wants full responsibility for her body (and, unless physically restrained, what we all do with our bodies is our responsibility) does not take full responsibility?
Originally posted by mhinsey
I never made a statement on the actual afteraffects. Personally, I think the woman should go to term and the child be taken care of by either one or both. If one does not want to be a party to that child's life tough. He - AND/OR SHE - should still be financially responsible for that child until the legal age of 18 unless the child is adopted. It should not be government funded to take care of the child.
Or for that matter, if NEITHER want the child, then the child be given up for adoption. Abortion is the selfish way out. It allows them to "erase" THEIR lapse in judgement. Abortion should only be for medically necessary or rape victims.
This was not an easy thought process for me because I do believe my body is my domain. However, once you have created a life from a sexual union then you should be obligated to carry the child to term. I would owe that child the right to live.
I also think people who bomb abortion clinics are coo-coo for cocoa-puffs and need to be put away asap.