reply to post by NightSkyeB4Dawn
I think it can be really difficult for us guys to swallow our pride sometimes. My wife recently lost her job and I've had the same one for nine
years. I'm the senior guy on my staff, the director and get paid the most. I'm a little worried.
Resentments are the killer. I've found the only way to avoid them is good, honest communication. Unfulfilled and unrealistic expectations are a pain
in the butt too and will ruin things if you don't get them out in the open. Sometimes you just have to hear yourself say something out loud to
realize how silly it is.
I'm a guy. Communication is not my strong point. I expect my wife to be able to read my mind. She can't. So I have to make an effort.
I know that personally I will get wrapped up in worrying about the safety of my family, the bread on the table, the world situation, the job, etc. and
sometimes be a silent jerk for a couple days. She knows me well enough that she will poke and prod until we get the conversation going. Once we've
talked about it, things aren't so bad.
We take turns being the one that says 'no matter what, we will be ok.' We both need reassurance sometimes that the other is in it for the long haul
and not going to bail when it gets too tough.
The 'Storm' as I would interpret it is just the crazy crap, all the material things, the bills, the worries. As long as your partner knows that you
are absolutley committed to them and will do anything you can to make it, WITH THEM, then everything else matters a lot less. It's all just stuff and
can dissappear in the blink of an eye.
It's sad, but I know a lot of couples won't make it together through this, but 'this' is not much different thananything else. Communication,
selflessness, compassion, duty, faith....the basic necessities from a long, long time ago, are still what's needed today.
I may be a hopeless romantic, but i truly believe that love can weather ANY storm, if it's really love.