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Originally posted by Astyanax
Men are programmed to find only fertile women sexy.
If you can find an older, but still attractive woman who also has the benefit of maturity and acquired wisdom you have quite a wonderful thing.
Inverting this, we find sometimes a woman who has lost her beauty and youth, and has also not matured spiritually and who has attained no wisdom. This unfortunate person is a wreck.
I went through the cougar phase too, all it took was a well fit pair of jeans and a well fit shirt. That does the trick and does not look "odd" (okay maybe being with a guy 15 years my junior did, but the clothing never did).
Originally posted by Lebowski achiever
reply to post by wassy
Actually no. I haven't. But tell me, is it meant as a compliment or is there still a form of derision?
The crone is a stock character in folklore and fairy tale, an old woman who is usually disagreeable, malicious, or sinister in manner, often with magical or supernatural associations that can make her either helpful or obstructing.
The Crone is winter, night, outer space, the abyss, menopause, advancement of age, wisdom, counsel, the gateway to death and reincarnation, and the Initiator into the deepest of Mysteries and prophecies.
WHEN I AM AN OLD WOMAN I SHALL WEAR PURPLE With a red hat which doesn't go, and doesn't suit me. And I shall spend my pension on brandy and summer gloves And satin sandals, and say we've no money for butter. I shall sit down on the pavement when I'm tired And gobble up samples in shops and press alarm bells And run my stick along the public railings And make up for the sobriety of my youth. I shall go out in my slippers in the rain And pick the flowers in other people's gardens And learn to spit
Personally, I see the crone as a kind of asexual being, or perhaps "beyond sexual" is a better way of putting it. This is seperate from the issue of attractiveness and older women (which in itself is quite interesting).
Originally posted by WhamBamTYM
Inverting this, we find sometimes a woman who has lost her beauty and youth, and has also not matured spiritually and who has attained no wisdom. This unfortunate person is a wreck.
oh Wham - you didn't really just say that - did you?
He did, ma'am, and if he meant what I think he did, I agree with him one hundred percent.
I think you will, too, once you take his meaning.
I know a few wrecked women.
To be blunt, I've probably helped wreck a few.
Youth and beauty are not frozen assets.
They are meant to be converted into that other, far more durable asset called a life of your own. This can involve having a career, making art, dedicating yourself to a cause, settling down and having kids, or some combination of the foregoing. The details are negotiable.
But what it emphatically doesn't involve is trying to be nineteen for ever...it's all to easy to see behind it the anxiety, the resentment, the boredom, ultimately the despair... the wreckage. The real damage. Which is on the inside, not the outside.
Men make comics of themselves with their midlife crises, but women make themselves tragic.
That, I believe, is the wreckage WhamBamTYM was alluding to: not the wreck of a woman's beauty, but the wrack of her self.
where does a man need to be lacking - how deficient must he be before he is considered to be a "wreck"?
Originally posted by Stormdancer777
You know thunder I am getting old and my mind isn't what it used to be, and it wasn't all that great to begin with, but I would like to think I have some wisdom and common sense, I have seen a lot, and read and researched many things,
why?
Originally posted by Spiramirabilis
reply to post by silent thunder
and that's the most interesting post so far
I want to call it brave - but I'm afraid of how condescending that might sound :-)
so - not brave - but, seriously - honest in a way we don't get to hear very often
I understand your OP - and what you started
I'm curious about why you started this thread - what were you expecting to hear?