reply to post by wylekat
What makes you so special??
Do you think anyone in this life has had it easy.
Adversity is there so you can overcome it.
You say you are a failure.
I beg to differ.
Because of the constant struggle you are going through, you have a ton of experience.
You have undoubtedly tried things, most people don't have the balls to.
Since you have tried numerous things you probably know more about those challenges than the others around you.
Stop fighting your nature.
Your nature is to try things.
Allow it to happen.
Stop feeling sorry for yourself.
No one is going to take you by the hand in this life and say, "here, this is how you do it."
How do you think anything ever got invented. Trial and error my friend.
Sit down, tonight, and make a list.
#1, What do I know?
#2, What can I do?
#3, What am I good at?
#4, What do I like?
#5, What is good about me?
As an example, for me it would be,
1. I know about computers, art, science, paint, building, etc..
2. I can draw & paint, fix a computer in my sleep, remodel a house, etc.
3. I am a good artist, I am a good improviser like McGuyver, etc..
4. I love art, science, building stuff, computers and my transformer collection
5. I am generous, thoughtful, helpful, clever.
The purpose of this is simple. It puts on paper and helps you to consolidate things you may not have realized about yourself.
There is something about putting things down on paper that does wonders for your core consciousness.
And the thing about woman, my man you have it all wrong.
Ask yourself, where are you going to meet women?
That is your first mistake.
The second is thinking money is all that will attract someone.
A stable, confident attitude does much more.
Women love confidence.
So get your head out of your ass and get yourself some confidence.
If you still think you are not doing anything good for yourself, do something good for others.
Chicken soup for the soul so to speak.
Volunteer, help your friends out.
Step out of character and help a total stranger. Carry out and old ladies groceries at the store. Make useful things and just give them away. Join a
volunteer group. Clean up a park.
A friend of mine once told me,
"Everything you THINK you are, be the OPPOSITE, for just one day. You will learn a lot about yourself."
Last but not least, get yourself some help. Don't rely on nameless, faceless posters on the internet.
[edit on 10/5/2009 by reticledc]