Ian McLean and americandingbat near Mt. Shasta, CA
I've never been much of a romantic. To be honest, I'm not that comfortable with the very idea of "soulmates"; I think that there may be a tendency
to excuse laziness in relationships with the notion that the relationship is either "meant to be" or "not meant to be".
But events have been making me question my anti-romantic assumptions. Last week, while vacationing in Mt. Shasta, CA, Ian McLean asked me to marry
him, and I said yes.
We're both in our mid/late-thirties, and had both settled into a sort of resolution and acceptance that we would never find "the one"; that we
weren't destined for "true love" and that the best we could hope for was not to be too lonely.
Which is to say to singles, don't give up. It took a completely random and unlikely series of events to bring Ian and I together in real life --
including requiring both of us to take uncharacteristic emotional risks. And now I have what I never expected; a respectful and tender relationship
that is also an unpredictable joy.
Thanks ATS/BTS and all ATS/BTS members for creating this space