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Every single kid gets called gay by older kids.
Originally posted by Common Good
reply to post by Zenagain
I think that maybe there is more to this story, and that maybe this child had other problems in his life that only took one little name to push him over the edge. Thats just my opinion.
Bullying is a natural survival instinct seen in all animals. It prepares you and the "victim" for the challenges of the real world.
Originally posted by Leto
Originally posted by Zenagain
I got called much worse in grade school and didn't hang myself. I don't agree with bullying but I DO agree with growing a pair. Life sucks, get a helmet.
Edit: Just please, PLEASE don't be shooting up your schools, M'kay?
[edit on 16-4-2009 by Zenagain]
Agreed. If you can't handle childish insults then perhaps you're not fit enough to live in this world. If he hadn't killed himself now perhaps he would have done something worse when he would eventually get dumped by his first girlfriend/boyfriend. Life is tough, you need a thick skin to survive.
Originally posted by Leto
Originally posted by Zenagain
I got called much worse in grade school and didn't hang myself. I don't agree with bullying but I DO agree with growing a pair. Life sucks, get a helmet.
Edit: Just please, PLEASE don't be shooting up your schools, M'kay?
[edit on 16-4-2009 by Zenagain]
Agreed. If you can't handle childish insults then perhaps you're not fit enough to live in this world. If he hadn't killed himself now perhaps he would have done something worse when he would eventually get dumped by his first girlfriend/boyfriend. Life is tough, you need a thick skin to survive.
Originally posted by Leto
Originally posted by sos37
Originally posted by dracodie
Some people here make bullies seem like they are a three headed beast with no brains , who just want to destroy other kids life´s
For all we know the kid could have some kind of mental disorder.
Bullies are the ones with a mental disorder. Think about it - why does someone bully someone else in the first place? Two reasons I can think of are to make themselves feel better because they don't feel good about themselves or because they like exerting power over someone else. In either case, the need that drives someone to bullying is an indicator that something is wrong in their own life.
Bullying is a natural survival instinct seen in all animals. It prepares you and the "victim" for the challenges of the real world.
Originally posted by Leto
Originally posted by sos37
Originally posted by dracodie
Some people here make bullies seem like they are a three headed beast with no brains , who just want to destroy other kids life´s
For all we know the kid could have some kind of mental disorder.
Bullies are the ones with a mental disorder. Think about it - why does someone bully someone else in the first place? Two reasons I can think of are to make themselves feel better because they don't feel good about themselves or because they like exerting power over someone else. In either case, the need that drives someone to bullying is an indicator that something is wrong in their own life.
Bullying is a natural survival instinct seen in all animals. It prepares you and the "victim" for the challenges of the real world.
Originally posted by sos37
.... or because they like exerting power over someone else.
Originally posted by mystiq
What am I reading even? There are a few posts like this! If you can't handle this world you're not fit enough to live in it? Its a primitive dog eat dog, survivalist manly kind of place where you need to chew on nails and call it a friendly hellhole. This is the problem. Its not a dog eat dog world, except for that mentality. I've noticed all along that its the most sensitive and often intelligent ones that seem to be prone to suicide, and they have so much to contribute. They're the future of this world, the non-primitives. These are babies. 11 is a baby. Even the bullies to me are babies, children, little ones. This macho patriarchal nonsense is adult crapola!!!!!!!!!!
We need the blending of male and female energy everywhere ASAP. I can't even bare such comments. I have 5 boys and each one of them is precious, and the shy ones are usually the most thoughtful master planner types there are. Guess what, they're also very vulnerable to depression, low self esteem and suicide. That boy might have been the answer to this worlds most urgent problems. He was far too sweet and far too good for the hell some are determined to make this world into. We don't need to toughen them up, we need to SOFTEN them up and fill them with compassion.
Originally posted by mystiq
Originally posted by Leto
Originally posted by Zenagain
I got called much worse in grade school and didn't hang myself. I don't agree with bullying but I DO agree with growing a pair. Life sucks, get a helmet.
Edit: Just please, PLEASE don't be shooting up your schools, M'kay?
[edit on 16-4-2009 by Zenagain]
Agreed. If you can't handle childish insults then perhaps you're not fit enough to live in this world. If he hadn't killed himself now perhaps he would have done something worse when he would eventually get dumped by his first girlfriend/boyfriend. Life is tough, you need a thick skin to survive.
What am I reading even? There are a few posts like this! If you can't handle this world you're not fit enough to live in it? Its a primitive dog eat dog, survivalist manly kind of place where you need to chew on nails and call it a friendly hellhole. This is the problem. Its not a dog eat dog world, except for that mentality. I've noticed all along that its the most sensitive and often intelligent ones that seem to be prone to suicide, and they have so much to contribute. They're the future of this world, the non-primitives. These are babies. 11 is a baby. Even the bullies to me are babies, children, little ones. This macho patriarchal nonsense is adult crapola!!!!!!!!!!
We need the blending of male and female energy everywhere ASAP. I can't even bare such comments. I have 5 boys and each one of them is precious, and the shy ones are usually the most thoughtful master planner types there are. Guess what, they're also very vulnerable to depression, low self esteem and suicide. That boy might have been the answer to this worlds most urgent problems. He was far too sweet and far too good for the hell some are determined to make this world into. We don't need to toughen them up, we need to SOFTEN them up and fill them with compassion.
Originally posted by jfj123
The survival instinct you're speaking of, is only acceptable in the rain forest.
Why is it so difficult to ask HUMANS to act HUMAN ?
Also keep in mind that part of the survival instinct is to take what you want/need.
What if someone wanted your home for shelter? Is that ok too?
What if someone wanted your food? If they are bigger then you, is it ok for them to take it? It's all survival you know
[edit on 16-4-2009 by jfj123]
Originally posted by Zenagain
I got called much worse in grade school and didn't hang myself. I don't agree with bullying but I DO agree with growing a pair. Life sucks, get a helmet.
Edit: Just please, PLEASE don't be shooting up your schools, M'kay?
[edit on 16-4-2009 by Zenagain]
Originally posted by Leto
Soften them up? Fill them with compassion? That's exactly what leads to these suicides. Parents and schools need to prepare their children to the realities of the world we live in, not build an unrealistic safety bubble where nothing ever goes wrong.
Don't know if you know this but it is possible to have both a thick skin and a big brain.
Originally posted by Leto
Originally posted by jfj123
The survival instinct you're speaking of, is only acceptable in the rain forest.
Why is it so difficult to ask HUMANS to act HUMAN ?
Also keep in mind that part of the survival instinct is to take what you want/need.
What if someone wanted your home for shelter? Is that ok too?
What if someone wanted your food? If they are bigger then you, is it ok for them to take it? It's all survival you know
[edit on 16-4-2009 by jfj123]
If someone wanted to take my home or my food they'd be looking down the barrel of my shotgun, and yes that's survival.
Originally posted by jfj123
Originally posted by Leto
Soften them up? Fill them with compassion? That's exactly what leads to these suicides. Parents and schools need to prepare their children to the realities of the world we live in, not build an unrealistic safety bubble where nothing ever goes wrong.
Don't know if you know this but it is possible to have both a thick skin and a big brain.
So then you think it's a good idea to let children bully each other, assault each other, etc.. to prepare them for life?
I bet you'd think twice before really wanting to put this to this test.
Someone is always bigger.
Someone is always tougher.
Someone always has a bigger gun.
But hey that ok right? If they get the draw on you, you won't have any hard feelings as it's survival. RIGHT?
Originally posted by Leto
So then you think it's a good idea to let children bully each other, assault each other, etc.. to prepare them for life?
Absolutely. I think everyone in public school goes through bullying, I was bullied and I did my fair share of bullying. Eventually you realize it's childish and you grow over it.
I bet you'd think twice before really wanting to put this to this test.
Someone is always bigger.
Someone is always tougher.
Someone always has a bigger gun.
But hey that ok right? If they get the draw on you, you won't have any hard feelings as it's survival. RIGHT?
As opposed to what, sitting there and hoping a magical fairy would help you? No, you need to defend yourself and call the cops.
[edit on 16-4-2009 by Leto]
Originally posted by zippy1958
Grow a pair?? Do you people have any idea what this child went through before hanging himself? The torment he must have felt. Where is your compassion? You obviously have none.
I am sickened by this thread. It shows how most straight people really feel about gay people. Oh, no big deal...one less fag in the world.
My heart broke for this poor kid. Bullying has NO place in a peaceful world.
Originally posted by jfj123
We as a society have been turning a blind eye to abuse for too long. We need to start getting involved.