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Originally posted by Gazrok
Is she married?
Are there kids involved?
That taken....is she still across the country? If so, is there anything really tying one of you down to where you are?
Originally posted by goldbomb444
And as I said, I do not KNOW she is being physically abused. I do know she is verbally abused. From what she tells be, he sounds to have an almost bi-polar presence around her. One day he will be all romantic, and another an ass-hole. Indeed it is frustrating being so far away...
The only weapon you have at your disposal is talking. I know, it sounds lame.
Everytime she is upset or mad, or whenever, just let her talk to you. Constantly reassure her, and then when she is winding down on her vents, casually ask her questions.
Are you really happy with this guy?
Do you really want to stay with a guy who does X to you? or says X to you? How does it make you feel when he says this type of thing?
Do you want to be with him for the rest of your life?
Say, I don't understand why a smart, intelligent, independent woman like you is allowing X to treat you this way.
Tell her, you are there for her. Tell her what a wonderful girl she is, and you feel she deserves a hell of a lot better - infact you know ten guys who would cut off their right arms to be with her.