His names Rob and he's been one of my best friends for 6 maybe 7 years now, although we haven't gone without our our share of dramas and fights.
I don't know why he's shutting me out, it seems so ...unprompted.
We used to get on so well, we used to have the best times, we used to trust each other and now he won't even engage in conversation. He just remains
silent unless he's answered a question with a one word answer. It's clear he doesn't want to talk to me- although he'd never say that, and I'm
certain he doesn't even want me over.
What the hell is going on? Things were fine and now this?!
Damn you Robert, why are you shutting me out?!
I feel that it's gotten to a point where there is nothing that I can do to reverse this and that I have to stand back to give him the space he's so
clearly reaching for. I worry that even doing this, the friendship may have died. I used to be at times clingy and so he may just need a rest, but
that was a long time ago, I don't think that is what's going on.
Do I have any other moves to make? Do yous know why this might be happening.
Edit to add:
I should probably give some more general info. We're both 20 y/o guys. We share a love for video games. We were friends through most of High School -
some of which we were
best friends. There was a time we were great mates in Intermediate school (11/12 y/o's) but we feel into different
groups till year 10 (Form Four).
Err um- 3 months ago I came out to my friends as bisexual. I was worried it would complicate the friendship but it really didn't- I'd almost say it
got better. Unlike my other friends, Rob somehow knew
long before I had said anything, so I don't think that has anything to do with it but I
could be wrong. I have a lot of trouble trying to 'read' him.
Up until about a month ago things were fine, we were getting on well. Then he seemed rather distant. Since then it's just gotten harder and harder,
he just won't communicate. It's something personal, he's not doing this for anyone else, to the best of my knowledge.
[edit on 29-3-2009 by Welfhard]