posted on Mar, 28 2009 @ 08:34 AM
Now see, the problem that I have about this is what exactly was the girl's intent? And really this is where the story should begin and end. What do
we know of her maturity, really? Yes placing them into public domain does not indicate advanced thought as anyone could access them, but what if was
to be private and "concerned" adults made it public?
My grandmother married at 16 in 1940? What does that say? Was she a naive child that was taken advantage of or was she brought up to be mature enough
to be a bride at 16? Should I mention that my grandfather would have been 20 at the time? Or perhaps my own mother married at 16 as well and turned 17
before I was born? Mom and Dad are still married and doing well.
Perhaps I should mention my own time at 17? I did date a girl that was 24 and a graduate of Vassar. I also had lunch with the then Governor Celeste's
wife, had been introduced to VP Bush. I had dated quite a few different girls my own age. I also had quite a few responsibilities and obligations as
well as managing myself.
Sure we could say that this girl was too young or irresponsible, perhaps even negligent in making her photos too public. But the stark reality is that
not even 100 years ago 14 year old brides were very common, by 16 it was nearly expected. Spinsters and old maids then were between 24-30. Perhaps she
was indeed being mature and sharing herself but went about it the completely wrong way? Again, what was her intent? Was she being sexual? There is a
huge difference between nude and naughty. Many of have seen live in the flesh nudity when we were teens. Not all of it was for bad reasons. Often
times it was accidental and there was nothing sexual about it.
But to be fair to this girl, at 14 I was laying the foundation to where I would be by the time I was 18. I had stopped playing with my childhood
friends and doing the same things of my younger days. In fact, 22 days before I turned 15, I created both my stage name and persona for that name.
Three months later the die would be cast and everything was set into motion. I realized the significance then at the time it was happening just as
well as I do now at 38.
I was the kind of person that figured things out for my own then, like what love was and was not. Sure I made some mistakes along the way, but I
learned and grew. Of course, none of my mistakes were posting nude photos on myspace. But then again, I wasn't the bastion of innocence either and
had no problem doing costume changes live on stage when I was 17. Mind you, I did leave boxers on, but did change boxers when removing pants to give
the illusion of there being more that perhaps the audience did not see at first glance. Yes, I did have an intent, but I played it off as my character
was "living on that set, and I was following that illusion". The critic that reviewed the play understood that, although there wasn't enough make
up to hide my age of playing a character 30 years older than myself, he did enjoy my performance otherwise.