Girl, 14, arrested for posting nude MySpace pics, page 2
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reply posted on 27-3-2009 @ 10:28 AM by greeneyedleo
Originally posted by calihan_12
im not saying i lived back then.. im saying YOU are not a youth of today, and i know how youth are now, and it concerns me how obsessed they are with media.


Uh. Yes I do know the youth of today. One im a mom and two, I have worked as youth counselors. So, I know the youth of yesterday and today.


Parents are definitely not always to blame. sometimes they are, many times they arent.
Parents are ultimately responsible for their child's life up until they are of legal age - 18. Everything they do, comes back to them. Do kids rebel? Yes. But there are ways to keep them from rebelling like this. It just takes some effort and desire on the part of the parents.


You have to realize every person is their own person, and regardless of if they have good parents or not, they are going to live their life the way they want to.


You have to realize that a 14yr old girl is a CHILD and it is the parent's responsiblity to make sure she is not screwing up her life and behaving in such a way online. That child is still under the responsiblity of the parents and no, they do NOT have the right to live their life as they so please. However, many parents dont give a rat's arse and let their child do so, as we see.


Many kids I knew were great kids when they were younger, and once they had the chance to leave home they were rebelious and promiscuous and into many drugs.


Yep, that would be me - though I never did drugs. Because my parents failed to be involved enough in my life to inform me of what life was really like. I left home and was opened to a huge new world. My parents failed at communication.



DONT blame the parents when its a person's choice. Not the parents choices
It is the parent's choice to allow a child - CHILD - to have free reign on a computer.


reply posted on 27-3-2009 @ 10:38 AM by skeptic1
reply to post by calihan_12


Children can think for themselves......when they grow up. Kids are kids for a reason, and that reason is not to act and behave like adults. They don't know how.

Parents are parents for a reason: to teach their children right from wrong.

Obviously, this girl either didn't know or didn't care what was right or what was wrong. Who is to blame for that? Her and her parents.

Those are the only 3 to blame for this, who are responsible for this, and who should have to deal with the consequences of this.


reply posted on 27-3-2009 @ 10:38 AM by nixie_nox
reply to post by ThePiemaker


I do agree with you that people need to be less prudish.

But when you are a young teen, you have no idea what you are doing. Neurologists are saying more and more that the teenage and young adult brain is nutty, and they can't always make rational decisions. So until a child has matured, the parents and society are responsible for helping kids make the right decision.

This girl doesnt' know what she wants. Four years is a long time in teenage land. She may decide later on she wants to go to a prestigious school. But now gets rejected because of those photos.

So not only is her future decided on a couple of snapshots, she could actually be a very smart person and the community loses a member who could of contributed quite a bit.

Teens are filled with a bravado that they are untouchable, or you can recover from anything.

Read up on some of the stories of girls whose lives were ruined from being on girls gone wild videos.

Not only that, since people do recongize them, they are petitioned all the time by men who think they are free prostitutes. Because for a few moments, that is how they acted.

Then when these women grow up, all of a sudden, their children's friends find the pics, and it circulates schools, then the children have to face the ridicule. So a simple act can have profound problems for years.

the internet is unforgiving.


reply posted on 27-3-2009 @ 10:40 AM by calihan_12
Originally posted by skeptic1
reply to post by calihan_12


Children can think for themselves......when they grow up. Kids are kids for a reason, and that reason is not to act and behave like adults. They don't know how.

Parents are parents for a reason: to teach their children right from wrong.

Obviously, this girl either didn't know or didn't care what was right or what was wrong. Who is to blame for that? Her and her parents.

Those are the only 3 to blame for this, who are responsible for this, and who should have to deal with the consequences of this.


I can see your points, and I do agree with you for the most part. I just feel that parents have too much blame on their shoulders and as much as they would like to guide their children in the right directions, they cant always be there to, especially when both parents work full time jobs to pay the bills, and dont always have the time to spend with their children.

Thats one of the problems of today, higher costs of homes and bills and now both parents have to work in order to afford living and taking care of their families.



reply posted on 27-3-2009 @ 10:46 AM by nixie_nox
Originally posted by calihan_12
parents are not saints. they cant have all the answers and all the right information, especially when they, themselves, werent raised right.

to expect them to do so is absurd.


No we are not but it doesn't take a genius to check your kid's myspace page.

my boyfriend has a deep hatred for his parents, solely because his dad was an actor when he was a little kid, and because of his days acting and interactment with so many fake people, his dad has since had severe anxiety and depression.

Because of that, my boyfriend thinks he has severe anxiety and depression because he has the same genes as his dad.


You contradicted yourself there. I guess your boyfriend doesn't share the same views.It is very possible his father was an actor because of his anxiety.
Yes, a lot of mental health disorders are inherited. So it is not fair for your bf to hate his father.
There are medications and therapy that can greatly help him with that. He needs to quite blaming others and pursue his own treatment.

When you tell kids that their parents are responsible for them and the way they think and act... you start brainwashing those children into thinking they are supposed to be like their parents when in fact everyone has their own thoughts and feelings and mind.


Guess what, parents are responsible for the way their kids think and act. If a child really screws up, the parents have to foot the bill.
people do have their own thoughts and feelings. But it doesn't give them the right to act like hooligans and put their parents into difficult positions..
That is what society is all about, your actions affect others.That is what parents teach.

More children need to be taught to think for THEMSELVES.


Thinking for yourself is deciding your career or what school you want to go to. Stripping because you have a low self esteem and you want others to oggle at you and give you sexy praises is not. What others think of her is NOT thinking for herself.

In fact, a good self confidence is the best thing a parent can teach. And confidence is a person thinking for themselves.


reply posted on 27-3-2009 @ 10:47 AM by ThePiemaker
reply to post by nixie_nox


But it all revolved around other people caring she posed naked and treating her negatively because of it. The problem isn't with her, it's with everyone else. But this society is too twisted to see that.
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