posted on Mar, 26 2009 @ 01:46 PM
I think the OP is to be commended for his willingness to do something for someone struggling during these difficult times. There is something deeply
satisfying in giving to others. Unfortunately, there are also pitfalls, which have been discussed here also.
Let me share my story here as another viewpoint.
I have been out of work for almost a year. I have worked my entire adult life. I live in a small town of around 1000 people. I am not on Welfare,
Disability, Unemployment, Food Stamps or any other Gov't assistance, although I did collect Unemployment for a little while.
I had little in the way of savings when I was laid off. I am single, no kids. I have a dog. I was renting, paying $900 mo. I had satellite TV, DSL,
pretty much all the things most people have. I had 0 debt. No credit cards, my truck was paid off.
I had been a bartender, my reported income was under 10K for 2007, but with my tips, I made close 50K that year...not alot, but enough for me to be
When I lost my job, because of the few services in my area and the fact that things are seasonal here, Finding work was next to impossible.
So I did stuff like help my neighbors shovel snow from their driveways, (I asked for donations, and for the seniors I did it for free), I always liked
doing leatherwork, so I started making pillows, purses, biker vests, whatever and selling them, I washed peoples windows for donations, stuff like
After awhile, people in the community would come by my house and ask me if I wanted to make a few $ for cleaning their construction site. I was asked
to tend bar for numerous Xmas parties, a Superbowl Party, at a Car Show.
More times than I care to recall, I'd walk out my front door and there would be a bag of groceries, or a 40 lb bag of dog food. I have had numerous
"anonymous" deposits in my bank acct. for amounts of $20 and a couple as high as $500. Friends of mine that hunt would give me the brains and hides
of their kills for me to tan and therefore, I'd have more material to work with.
I have always been active in my town doing things like helping organize our VFW's Easter Egg Extravaganza and stuff like that, And I still try to do
things to give back to my community. I feel I cant do enough.
I have since sold my truck, bought an RV which is where I'm living now. I park it in an RV park here in town. I was parked in the nearby woods for a
bit, having to move every 2 weeks until the owner of the RV park invited me to move there. I spend about 10 hrs a week helping maintain the place for
my rent, electricity, water and internet.
My point here being that it truly does take a village. People have been willing to help me because I have been willing to do what I can to help
myself, as well as others.
I cant give enough back to all who have helped me, and they have told me they wouldnt want me to, that helping was its own reward for them. I just
hope that I can help others in the future as I have been helped.
I have found a new job in another state, where I used to live. I will start next month. I hate to leave all the good people here, but I really must go
where the job is.
I feel that if each of us finds someone in our communities that is in need and we "adopt" that person and do for them what we can, the rewards are
unfathomable and kindness and charity beget themselves over and over and over again.
I know I will be finding someone in need to adopt...I owe it to my community.