posted on Mar, 25 2009 @ 07:58 AM
I once offered some advice to a lovely lady who was always upset that all her friends were coupled off and happy. She's a big girl, and was upset
becasue she attracted people who wanted a fat girl, not someone who liked her for WHO she was. I told her the same thing I'm going to tell you.
If you're looking for it, it won't come. And the more dissapointed you'll be. Just go out without an interest on your mind, just go and be fun,
enjoy your singledom. When people see you having fun, you automaticly become more attractive. When you're in a more realxed state, you become more
attractive. Don't wear your heart on your sleeve, just be YOU.
When you're out "looking" for a potential relationship, it shows, and it'll scare people away. Just start going out with the mind set of someone
who wants to have some fun and just let it all down. that way, you'll attract people who also like to have fun, and from there a relationship can
best be built.
From me telling that lovely lady friend of mine, to now (gap of about 3 years) she's now in a stable realtionship, with someone who loves HER, not
what her body looks like. And she always thanks me for it. Not that i take any credit, she's a complete babe, and she's way more than her large body
could ever support. She found someone sho realised that, and so will you. You will find someone who appreciates you. I promise you. But you have to
take a back seat, and let things just happen. Don;t force it, and don't "fall in love" with the first person to show an interest in you. That's a
sure fire way to get them to back up.
Just be you, because that's all you can be. I wish you all the happyness in the world, I'm sure you deserve it, as does everyone. You just need to
know how to get it. And now you do.
gay people give the BEST relationship advice, or so I've been told. And i'm about as bent as it gets, so please listen to me. The right woman is
right out there, waiting for you to become yourself. Relax, and just let it be, do not force it.
Love and light to you, and may you live a long, happy life.