reply to post by Seasick
I think the problem is that the kids are being sold. They see a guy who is successful, showing bling and money and cars.
(they usually don't show them bankrupt later on)
And when you are down and out, it looks like a pretty nice place to be. Just like someone wanting to be Bekham or Michael Jordon.It is an out. And you
make enough money to support your whole neighborhood. But they don't realize your chances are similar to playing the lottery.
And black people are not the only ones guilty of that. Everyone hopes they have the next Tiger Woods or Michael Phelps.
Look how many people show up in Hollywood hoping to make it.
People don't look at the numbers. There are only a handful, hundreds of people in the limelight. Out of 6 billion people on the planet. What are the
odds?
Becoming a doctor or a congressman is way to much work. And just doesn't seem as glamorous.
As I explained on another thread, for the city folks anyways, that is hard to imagine life for the better when you have yet to see an example. You
have generations upon generations of people struggling, and you follow suit. Having a better life doesn't seem any more possible then it does for me
or you to buy the White House.
And they are caught in a downward spiral. Despair leads to crime and crime leads to despair. You have young parents who have no idea what they are
doing. They have had parents who have had no idea what they are doing, no one forms any real relationships. And you have this lack of attachment.
Hence the reason a lot of people join gangs. To have a place to belong, With rules, however twisted they may be. To have people that feel like a
family. It is a sarrogate family.
The teachers get apathetic because after a while you stop trying. My cousin was a teacher in one of these areas. She tried but eventually had to
leave. She brought a computer to the class so the kids could get the experience. Someone broke it. So she had it fixed. Then it got broken again.
Things of that nature.
It makes me sad. I wish there was an answer. But it is a complicated problem.
But they do give each other a hard time. A friend of mine was going to school to be a midwife. Black person of course. Beautiful, smart, ambitious.
She wanted to be able to help and be there for women to deliver babies. To make sure they were educated about it and understood what was going on and
didn't face it alone. I thought she was a lovely person for it. But she told me her struggles. She got accused of trying to be "white" That she
wasn't black enough. It was hard on her. My heart ached for her because here she was, getting an education and I knew she was going far in life. And
she was given grief about it.
I wondered how many people succumbed and gave up?ugh. I hate to think about it.
[edit on 14-3-2009 by nixie_nox]