posted on Mar, 7 2009 @ 11:04 AM
Misswanderer31, I think some men and women are "forced" upon their lifetime endevours because they realize that it's a worthy cause to look into,
and... if something wonderful happens that causes sparks to start flying in that endevour, then one can bow down and become consumed by that great
endevour, or one can simply walk away from a great endevour and regret it the rest of their lifetime.
Balance as you suggest is truly needed in all processes; even the process of developing a relationship or an ever lasting love. Intelligent
conversation is also what usually gives spark to some great idea or invention.
I came here to ATS simply for that reason, to have intelligent conversations about different things that I'm interested in; fully knowing that in
these conversations I might get a spark from someone writing something down; and of course it has happened quite a few times. Sometimes I'm really
shocked at how intelligent MOST of these people are, because there are quite a few that really shine brightly in different areas of knowledge.
You shock and surprise me with what you write, because its like you are already in my head sensing some sort of similar shockwave to return its signal
in a positive fashion to mesh with your brainwave patterns; or you would not have written what you wrote.
Romance is fun in a relationship. All surprises, big and small, are wonderful reminders and confidence builders and sustainers in all worthy
relationships. The suprise one gives another comes from their heart, and even the smallest of surprises should not go unnoticed or unrewarded by at
least a big hug and kiss.
Women love romance, and I think many guys like romance also. I think guys love to play back and forth for a while, like a cat and mouse game;
lovingly chasing and lovingly being chased.
I think a lot of guys are romantics but they have never gotten to play the role because of the Macho attitude they are supposed to portray. They
don't want to let down their guard in fear that they will expose themselves to ridicule from other supposed macho men; possibly a bad trait passed on
by watching their father with his robot sentimentality in the love department.
I think if men just let themselves go and forgot about all of the BS macho stuff, then they would find an eternal loving and caring woman; much like
the OP seems to be searching for. I think he is opening up an area that will be widely accepted by all men and women on ATS.
As to romance, what I really like that I haven't found in quite a while is to take a loved one out to dinner and have a guitar player wandering
around the diner singing love tunes to the couples while they dine. I like that, especially if the singer is all dressed up in some fancy costume and
they prove that they are a really good singer while they play the guitar. I also like to hear women with a beautiful voice sing a love song up on
stage while they are wearing some beautiful evening gown.
A good woman is just plain fun to be around, and if the topics covered are vast and open to comments thats great. I'm not particular to women with
closed minds, I like women with open minds, ready to check into any topic no matter how far fetched it may seem.
Most relationships suddenly end when the conversation between two people diminish because they have either said all that they intend to say, or they
simply don't have anything in common that is interesting enough to get a positive reply.
[edit on 7-3-2009 by RussianScientists]