posted on May, 11 2009 @ 02:32 PM
Times are different now as both parents have to work. The stay at home Mom is a luxury that is not afforded nowadays. With rent and mortgages at
$1500, utilities at an all time high, car payments, insurances (car, health, home), food and other bills to pay. There are very few jobs that pay over
$10 an hour, and most of the people who did make good money have been laid off as their jobs are sent to India.
The idea of stay at home mothers is a concept seen only on 1950s TV shows. Women went to work during WWII, and many decided to keep working. If they
wanted that nice suburban home, two paychecks were needed.
I was the product of working parents, and my grandparents helped out since they lived with us. (Not recommended as it took an emotional toll on my
parents.) Physical punishment was the norm, and belts were usually used. I came out OK, but I vowed never to hit my children.
I also worked with troubled teens (and was a foster parent) who were beaten and some even had cigarettes put out on them as punishment. One can see
another reason why I am against physical punishment. The boys would listen to me as I still meant business. I respected them, and they respected me.
It is a two-way street, and they had to earn that respect.
I do agree that many kids are very disrespectful, but that was also true during the early 1970s when I was growing up. I had friends who would talk
back to their parents at an early age. Telling their mother to drop dead, and other nasty things. Dr Spock can be blamed for letting children do what
they want. I am not an expert on what should be done, but time outs on a small child do work. Obviously when they get older something else is
I only agree with swatting on the rear to keep a small child from running in the street. They do not know that a car can kill them, but do fear a swat
on the rump.
Parenting is a difficult job, especially with all the obstacles set up. There are so many cases where DFCS is called for bogus reasons such as making
a ten year old do the dishes. (I actually read that in the paper some time ago, true story.) While I am opposed to spanking and physical punishment, I
do believe it is the parent who must decide what courses and actions to take.