reply to post by Striker122
I once took a human sexuality course while I was in college. The course teaches that there are different kinds of love. I will name what I can
remember for you with a brief description of each, since I don't have my notes readily available at this current time.
There are several kinds of love, and these are the types:
Compassionate Love - This type of love is also known as infactuation or lust. You can be very attracted to the individual, and usually find yourself
having daydreams about the individual; especially erotic daydreams. This Love can also be like a Romantic Love, where you buy your mate roses, take
them out to dinner and the movies, and cuddle up to watch a movie on the couch.
Empty Love - This love speaks for itself. It is empty, and virtually not love at all. There is usually no emotion, and no attraction. Some people tell
eachother that they Love one another, and really don't mean it at all. This kind of relationship may be strictly sexual.
Companionate Love - This type of Love is likely to be two bestfriends who have known one another for quite some time, and have become aquainted and
comfortable with one another. Before the relationship occurs, it usually begins as a friendship and a Friendship Love, where each individual cares
about the other one prior to becoming involved.
Friendship Love - This type of Love is the Love you would have towards your friends, or your family. You buy them gifts at Christmas time. You want to
give them a hug before they leave. You would never let harm come their way.
True Love - This kind of Love is usually a combination of Compassionate or Romantic Love, Companionate Love, and Friendship Love.
What I have found is all people have pepeeves, and dislikes. Since no one is actually perfect (because perfection differs in every person's eyes),
and perfection is basically non-existent(except when you look at life as a whole; then it is all perfect), people can create unrealistic expectations
When True Love is actually present in the relationship, these expectations are still going to occur; they don't go away. The actual Love that exists
for each person will help allow the couple overcome these obsticles in their relationship, allowing a bond to occur, but it doesn't always eliminate
them(obsticles).; being different is what makes us unique, and it gives each individual their own persona. Sometimes, in a relationship, it is good
for change. Problems that occur have to be perceived openly, without allowing ego and pride become these huge barriers in the overall outlook and
situation. It is important to know that it doesn't make you weak by changing little things about yourself for people we Love. We change always
anyways. Every little moment we are able to take in, every experience, can change our whole outlook on all things in life, at any given time. This
doesn't make you indifferent or a liar if you liked one thing about your lover one day, and then the next day you dislike that very same thing.
If your partner dislikes something, then it is always good to start observing the problem by way of empathy. Put yourself in his/her place, and
observe yourself; and I urge them to do the same. If you are truly in Love, then you will do all that it takes to comfort each other.
I heard a joke once, and its a little bit funny. "Why did my wife spend all these years changing me, and now she wants a divorce because she says
I'm not the same guy she married?"