I need to vent.
Why do you say you don't want marriage and yet you have been married before?
AS gazrock said, it obviously left a bad taste in his mouth.
Why do you act like my crying is a mind game and get mad at me when sometimes you truly hurt my feelings and I can't help it?
Im yet to meet a women who cries over relationship stuff, and it NOT be a mind game. If someones died, a long time friend has left, someone said
something, or you were cheated on.. yeah these things suck, and are worth crying about.
But if the crying is because of some emotional feeling toward something not being done, maybe a bad day at the office, or because you feel bad, sorry
to say us guys just dont want to be there and take that crap.
Be sad, be angry, be in a bad mood, sit in your room read a book and be a bi'tch.. we accept that youve had a bad day, are down, arent happy with our
lack of attention.. fair be it.. but crying? is just over the top in my opinion and if your that emotional you find the need to cry all the time,
then.. well, i suppose I wouldnt want to marry a women like that either.
But I dont know how often you cry, so dont think im putting this on you, just saying how i felt in the past when other partners cry over stupid
Why do you treat me like I am a whore when I want sex and refuse to do foreplay when you want it?
Depends on a lot of things. Do you dress in mini skirts, put on plenty of makeup? how can you say this.. its like your forcing us to stereotype the
guy. For all we know you could go out on the weekend in revealing clothing... sorry, but it just sounds like your looking for people to give you ammo,
or to have your back.
How often do you dress up in sexy clothes for your man?
Maybe initiate a night of love making
How often do you tie him up and have a go?
Perhaps he's a bit starved of something new, and at any opportunity he see's he wants to add some spice.
But once again, your not telling us the whole story here, and to me just seems like your looking for people to back you up.
Why do you treat your sister with more respect then you have ever shown me?
Sister is family. Do you have family?
If your sister/brother was in a burning building on the left, and he was in a burning building on the right, who would you run to save?
Are you sure its respect you see here? and not the ability to relate or discuss?
I know I can talk differently and more openly with my sister over my partner, simply because my sister held my hand while i was in yr1 being beat
up... she knows me better!
Why do you take me for granted?
This goes both ways in relationships.
Its just that guys dont care, guys dont often want want want all the time, we dont mind not getting affection, not getting compliments, not getting
things and being left alone in our own time..
Why do you look at other women while I am standing next to you?
Thats called being a man.
Im sure when your with the girls, your making comments about 'hunky' guys.
likewise, when your with him, im sure if a good looking fella walked past, you've have a second look.
Secondly, I find women tend to put themselves out there more. Shirt Skirts, open tops, makeup.. If every 2nd bloke walked around in tight shorts and
a singlet.. im sure girls would be looking to.
Why do you try to make everything a joke when I am trying to talk to you about our life, the bills and the kids?
Because he knows that hardwork and time will work things out.
Getting sad and arguing over things makes it worse.
Maybe he cant understand why your getting so emotional and worked up over something that will sort its self out?
Why don't you say I am beautiful or you love me anymore?
How often do you say it to him?
I tell my girl all the time, thats because she looks stunning to me.
Shes always smiling, she's always happy, always joking.
Its not what she wears, or what make up is on.
If she opens that door smiling, with a spark in her eye ill kiss her tell her she looks lovely.
If she opened the door looking down, red eyes from crying asking me why im late, where have i been rah rah rah.. instantly, the last thing im thinking
of is a compliment.
Why can't I feel like we connect?
What do you mean by connect?
Do you want him to do the things you enjoy?
Or do you want to join him in the things he enjoys?
Youve got children, a house and a life.
What more do you need to feel like your connected?
A wedding ring?
Why do I feel so hurt and sad?
because maybe you expect to much, and need to be happy with what youve got.
My friend always said, any day your above ground is a great day.
Youve got a home, a husband and kids.
I could name entire nations who would envy that!
Why do I even bother when you don't seem to care anymore?
Because he probably doesnt.. I mean, whats there to care about? your nothing but negative, emotional and demanding.
Why does this suck so much?
Because you feel like its all his fault. you feel trapped.
mayeb give a little to get a little?
Look, I dont want to be mean, but majority of responses here take your word for gospel, and im sure people are pictuing this man as a overweight oaf,
who wears a blue wife basher singlet sitting on the couch throwing back stubbies screaming at you for more.
But im sure thats not the right picture is it .
Men are Men, and women are women.
the quicker both sides accept that the quicker they find joys in the differences.
I taught my girlfriend to fart and laugh, and she's so prissy and proper its funny to see her face light up bright red and burts out in laughter.
likewise, we both go do rock and roll dancing once a week, she loves dancing Ive never been, but because she's willing to sit down with me and learn
a little about history, or baketball, its a fair trade.
If im annoyed and need to be alone, she'll go out with her friends, see her sister, clean her clothes or something and let me muster in my own
likewise, if she's annoyed or angry, ill make her a tea, and turn the tv over to neigbours, let her mull a little.
Both sides need to accept their faults,
Its when you blame them for your own saddness and anger, that it all falls apart!