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Originally posted by deathpoet69
so he would of been lost in a black hole?
Originally posted by pieman
Originally posted by deathpoet69
so he would of been lost in a black hole?
you could say that.
just a thought, does he switch to griping about injustices leveled against him soon after you talk to him about either getting out more or talking about your childhood?
it could be that he needs some form of acknowledgment for the good job he has done in raising you on his own despite the challenge. often, men need to acknowledge a job done before they can move on.
perhaps the meaning of all this griping is that he wants someone to say "good job, well done, pat on the back, lets go for a pint."
just a thought.
Originally posted by pieman
i don't mean you should take him to the pub, i mean you should bear in mind that when he gripes he's saying "i need to be told i did a good job".
if you say, "yeah, that sounds like a killer. you did well to manage it and we came through okay,, well done" he'll feel better and respond better to what you wanted to talk about in the first place.
Originally posted by pieman
if you tell him he doesn't have enough friends or talk about money he probably feels critisised and gets defensive and closed down. he might feel easier if you make him feel good about himself as well.
just say something positive about him whenever he gripes, eventually he'll regain his confidence and he'll need the support less and less.
i get what your on about now, but wundt he still contuine the next time or would i need to repeat you done a good job
Originally posted by pieman
the attitudes were different, it would have been harder for a man to understand his partner leaving him and his child and there wouldn't have been the support networks that are available today.
Originally posted by pieman
reply to post by deathpoet69
good stuff, well done, did he take it on board, do you think?