Originally posted by KaginD
[...] I don't want to have another failed attempt that lays on the taxpayers wallet. And I certainly don't want to see more people default on their
homes! I think everyone should live within their own means for now. If you can afford a house, then yes, go for it. But, if you can't and you just
want to take advantage of the opportunity because you don't want to miss out.. Well, thats an issue for me.
I agree - people should live within their means. I can say that for myself, I live frugally. I would also like a house, but I'm very grateful for my
little apartment. I look around and see a lot of people with what, in my opinion, are fancy clothes, cars and toys. To me, it's ridiculous; these are
not necessary things in life. That's their choice, though, if they want to get into debt or work away for those things. Part of my comfort is knowing
that I will be able to live on less. I hear that some of these rich, suicidal people who lost a lot in the crisis are that way because they don't
know how to get by on less like regular people do. It's hard for me to have sympathy for people who are upset at having fewer millions, but I could
put myself in their positions and understand their pain because we all suffer
So my point is that I think we should be careful with the anger and judgementalism, live by example, and be glad for the ethics each of us has which
helps to serve us. We can also work to change the system in various ways.
I should add that I do understand the sense of unfairness some of you are feeling about all this. There have been situations in my own life when I
felt self-righteous for a time about how I was doing things the right way and others were skating along having an easy time of it. College was one
time. I had worked my butt off to get scholarships to go to a school where I came in contact with a lot of well-to-do kids. It really bothered me that
they were so arrogant for who they were and what they had, while their parents paid their tuition. And here I got there by merit, and didn't have
that kind of attitude. In retrospect, however, I had a little of the same attitude since I looked down on them for something they were simply lucky to
have. It also isolated me from them because I felt so different (though it probably was only natural that I couldn't relate to a lot of them). Each
of us has our own path, and our own pain (and I'm sure those kids had suffering which was real to them, too). To a certain extent, when you walk a
harder path you hopefully end up with resilience and strength from it. These are things nobody can give to you. I hope you can recognize that,
especially because I believe we'll all need those qualities to get through the troubles yet to come our way from this mess.
Another example where I could envy people is with relationships and getting material things out of them. I'm not trying to indict anyone here, but
there have been times when I had a hard time understanding how women get stuff out of men for having sex with them (often called dating). I feel for
men who think they have to give things to women in order to be with them (not talking about a general sharing attitude couples should have), and I
have before looked down on women who took advantage of this. In time, I have come to simply be glad for myself that I am true to what works for my
conscience, and to not be so hard on the other women. Good things come from being true to yourself. I would not want to switch places with the women
who take stuff from men. I'm sure some of them pay dearly for it in other ways. Just look at the woman who puts up with abuse because her husband
makes good money. And I'm sure it works fine for some women, too. Look at the woman who is very happy with her s.o. who also happens to buy her
things. Great. To each his own. Not to oversimplify, of course.
We can always be unhappy about someone else getting an easier ride. Just my point of view to appeal to people to be kinder, though I understand your
anger and I hope you all find constructive ways to deal with it (just as I have to when the state of the world gets to me too). I bet some good music
will come out of all this!
[edit on 20-2-2009 by wintermarches]