Just wondering Darkstar, are you a working parent, or a parent period?
I have read this thread with interest and it saddens me to agree with the points raised. When I was a wee nipper, I was always asking 'why?' and I
would never give up until I was satisfied that my question had been answered to the fullest extent. My family were very close and we did a lot of
things, picnics, drives out in the country side, games etc etc. Both my parents worked as well, although one worked in the day, the other in the
Myself and my partner have a one year old, and we both work. We are both in full-time employment in downtown Chicago. Now we are not huge money
makers, but we earn a modest/average wage. We are constantly struggling to make ends meet. We had to put our child into daycare at 3 months old, as my
partner had to get back in the workforce as her alotted time had been used up and she needed to be earning again, as we couldn't survive on just my
income (we had just bought a small condo as well).
I could not get my head around putting a 3 month old baby, still 'wet behind the ears' into a daycare with people we didn't know. It's a vicious
circle, as the daycare costs are more than my mortgage payments. So the irony is my partner goes back to work, to pay the increased costs of living,
only for us to be struggling all the time. We have limited time together, as we have long days, we are up at 5 am and don't get back in the door till
after 6.30pm. We put the little fella to bed at 8.30pm, so we get a lousy 2 hours a night with him if we are lucky.
I guess the point I am getting to is I can see how the family unit can disintergrate. You have few options but to work, to pay your way, and *maybe*
keep your head above water.
I have to disagree slightly with the 'What are they working off? Stuff, quick and easy gratification from buying stuff' comment though. I incurred
some ghastly credit card debt from the hospital after the birth of my son, and the reason? because the billing people would not work out a 'pay what
you can each month' arrangement. They wanted $150 a month from us, and that was only one of the four different bills we were being sent. I decided to
dump it all on my credit card because it was the only way out, at least then I only have one payment I have to make to one entity, rather than all the
insurance companies that just confuse you with all sorts of needless paperwork.
Those of us living literally paycheck to paycheck sometimes have to bite the bullet. I wish I had money to spend on a new TV or a new car!
The good thing about it all though is that I ended up with a beautiful baby