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The Greatest Irony of Love

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posted on Feb, 18 2009 @ 06:41 AM
One of my close friends sent me this message one day to cheer me up. Hope it can help others.

The greatest irony of love: Loving the right person at the wrong time or having the wrong person when the time is right; finding out you love someone after that person walks out of your life. For some, they think that letting go is one way of expressing how much they love that person. Some are afraid to see the one they love being held by someone else. Most relationships tend to fail not because of the absence of love, but because love is always present. It's just that one was being loved too much, and the other was being loved too little. Most often, we fall in love with the person we think we love, but to only discover that for them we are just for past times. While the one who truly loves us remains either your friend or a stranger.

When you think of your past love; you may view it as a failure; but when you find a new love, you view the past as a teacher. In the game of love, it doesn't really matter who won or who lost. What's important is that you know when to hold on and when to let go. You know that you love someone when you want him or her to be happy, even if their happiness means that you're not apart of it. Everything happens for a reason and for its best. If the person you love doesn't love you back, don't be afraid to love someone else again, for you'll never know unless you give it a try.

You'll never truly love a person, unless you risk for their love; love strives in hurting. If you don't get hurt, then you won't learn how to love. Love doesn't hurt all the time; though the hurting is there to test you, to help you grow. Don't find love, let love find you; that's why it's called falling in love, because you don't need to force yourself to love, you just fall. You cannot finish a book without closing the chapters. If you want to move on, then you have to leave the past as you turn the pages.

Love is not destroyed by a single failure or won by a single caress. But why is it that the greatest irony of love is letting go when you want to hold on, and holding on when you need to let go? You can never find the right person if you can never let it go of the wrong, but at the same time the moment you feel like letting go, you remember why you held on for so long. Sometimes you have to forget what you want and remember what you deserve.
To love is to risk rejection, to live is to risk dying and to hope is to risk failure. But risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing at all. To reach for another is to risk involvement, to expose your feelings is to expose your true self. To love is to risk not being loved in return.

How to define love: Fall but do not stumble. Be constant but not too persistent. Share and never be unfair. Understand and try not to demand. Hurt but never keep the pain.
Love is supposed to be the most wonderful feeling. It should inspire you and give you joy and strength. But sometimes the things that give you joy can also hurt you in the end. Loving people means giving them the freedom; whom they choose to be and where they choose to go. Loving someone means giving them the freedom to find their way, whether it leads towards you or away from you.

Love can be a painful risk. To love means that risk must be taken, no matter how scary or painful, for only then will you experience the fullness of humanity of what we call love. If you're not ready to cry, if you're not ready to take the risk and if you're not ready to feel the pain, then you're not ready to fall in love.

posted on Feb, 18 2009 @ 06:57 AM
aw man....

seriously, i'm crying right now.
that is beautiful and wonderfully true.

posted on Feb, 18 2009 @ 07:07 AM
I like how this anyone reading this can relate to it in some form or another and interpreted in so many ways during different points in peoples lives.

posted on Feb, 18 2009 @ 08:11 PM
Now that spoke to me! How beautifully written that piece is! I have often contemplated what the meaning of love was and is and I think that that just summed it up! Thanks for posting that! Star and Flag!

posted on Feb, 18 2009 @ 08:17 PM
reply to post by nahsik

man, you don't know how close to the bone that is

Spot on.... and speechless.

weird day, weird week, weird month but all is good

posted on Feb, 18 2009 @ 08:24 PM
reply to post by nahsik

That is truly beautiful man

So lovely indeed, thanks for sharing

posted on Feb, 18 2009 @ 10:57 PM
Wow! That is by far one of the most beautiful things I have ever read. So true and inspiring. I can't imagine that it doesn't in one way or another speak to everyone. Thank you for sharing it.


posted on Feb, 26 2009 @ 06:48 AM

this story couldnt be more true

I am also crying lol


posted on Jul, 2 2011 @ 06:53 PM
I created this piece of work about love

hope you enjoy it

posted on Jul, 13 2011 @ 10:51 PM
As apparently everybody is, I'm crying. Typed in love and this came up.

I almost feel like it was a sign. Great post(:

posted on Jul, 1 2012 @ 11:37 PM

Originally posted by nahsik

You cannot finish a book without closing the chapters. If you want to move on, then you have to leave the past as you turn the pages.

In a way, that post reads like a compilation of many different quotes. Maybe that's why so many different people can relate to it. The sentence I quoted is the one I would've written. Some people find it hard to finish a chapter while some people find it hard to start a new one. And if you think about it, that is being on the same page. They both want to make sure that the next on is the last one.

And you're right, it's not easy. But that's love. If anyone said it was gonna be easy.....they lied and they themselves don't know what love is.

For some reason this reminds me of a scene out of Oceans 11. Julia Roberts and George Clooney have a scene where is he asks about her new husband: "Does he make you laugh?" She replies...."He doesn't make me cry"

When you love someone I think you have to be able to do both. And again, with the irony, both of those emotions have to leave the same effect on a person. That they really do love the other.

posted on Jul, 3 2012 @ 09:58 PM
That was absolutely wonderful. I'm glad I came across that today, I'm having trouble getting over a relationship and those words seemed to quell the pain a bit.

Thank you OP.

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