posted on Apr, 16 2004 @ 04:37 PM
My mom was like that before too, still is, which really cheezes me off...
KJ, you just have to confront her, it will clear the air, your like that black sheep in the family now, but black sheeps usually do alot of good, and
bring healthy dynamics to the home.
You are doing this because you want to help not because you want to stir the pot.
Your wife is just doing what she's been told to do growing up. If she was raised like you, well then she would be more like you.
Tell her that your concerned about this and what everything to be ok, there are no buts or ifs.
Send the letter, or even go over to her house on your own time, bring her some tea or coffee, and sit there and tell her you want to expess some
concerns you have.
Tell her the way you were raised and how that part is affecting the relationship. Tell her the blatantly obvious, so that she can understand.
Just tell her, i've been raised like this, and I can't just ignore something if I smell a problem, I like to deal with it head on to get it out of
So go into your concerns and try to level with her.
I'm sure once you get that out of the way she'll have a better understanding of who are you, your backround, ect, instead of just thinking your some
kind of cowboy or whatever she thinks of you...
Open and honest is always the best way to go...
who said the truth shall set your free?? It's so true.