reply to post by Trayen11
I love your daughter's replies. My family ran into a similar encounter years ago. I was a jr. or sr. in high school at the time, about 15 years ago.
My sister, then in 7th or 8th grade, had gone to the school counselor's office crying that she didn't want to go home. The counselor, without asking
why, called DCFS and the police. My parents finally, hours later, were called and told about the situation. After being read the riot act by the
police and DCFS, my parents (knowing my sister) asked these people if anyone had bothered asking my sister why she didn't want to go home. Not a
single one had. So, they all troop in to where my sister is waiting and ask her. Her answer? It was her night to help me do the dishes.
You would think that that would have been the end of it all, but no. A DCFS worker showed up at the house a few days later. Both of my parents were
still at work and I was babysitting. Being 17 or 18 at the time, that wasn't a problem, but you would have thought that we had been on our own for
days the way the lady acted.
Having been raised in an environment like your house, allowed to discuss and question anything, I was capable of independent thought and definitely of
forming my own opinions. This lady was incredibly condescending and so I decided that I would return to her the attitude she was giving to me. She was
pushing to be allowed in the house, despite my parents being not home, and I refused to allow her in. I came out, with my siblings, to talk to her,
but she, a stranger I didn't know, sure wasn't getting into the house. I finally told her that for all I knew she could very well be half of a
partnership trying to lure kids into trusting her so that they could be kidnapped by sexual predators. She wasn't amused, but I stood by my point. I
didn't know her, she wasn't entering. I assured her that if I sensed any threat from her I would defend first and question later.
After agreeing that she would talk to us on the porch in view of the neighbors, she started asking if we had ever been abused. I, maybe unwisely (or
not, considering the eventual outcome), was goading her. I was a mouthy beast and prone to sarcasm. She kept asking why my sister wouldn't want to
come home. I had been goading her for a bit and asked her if she would want to have to share KP with me. She agreed that she would not want to spend
time on KP with me. I explained that she had just answered her own question.
She moved on to asking if we were punished too harshly. I asked her to define "too harshly", asking if my being grounded from going to the school
dance for my mouthiness counted, or maybe she meant that I got phone privileges taken away for a week, again for the mouthing off, was too harsh,
'cuz darned if I didn't think so. I had a boyfriend to call, darn it! She then asked about my siblings and their punishments. I informed her that I
had pretty well broken in my parents for them. She kept pushing, asking the same thing different ways. I explained that she could ask as many ways as
she liked, but that she wasn't doing herself any favors. I informed her that I was particularly good at the semantics game and would be happy to show
her by out playing her. Again, not amused. I finally relented and told her "Lady, I wouldn't be out here annoying the crap out of you if I were so
afraid. Who do you think taught me that doing my own thinking and opinion forming is important, anyway?"
She finally stormed away. Outcome? A child as mouthy as I wasn't being shown firm enough parenting - no evidence, case closed. I think she just
didn't want to chance having to talk to me ever again.
Just one situation showing why this proposition would never be feasible.