reply to post by Mynaeris
The problem is actually a little deeper. Are parents having a hard time coping and parenting? YES
There are big differences these days.
Both parents are working. Having far less hours devoted to home life. Making any downtime now worktime.
Kids get far less outside time and rec time at school. Making them energetic and hyper.
Food is laced with preservatives(proven to make kids hyperactive) and corn syrup.
Families are now isolated. American's obsession with isolation has families living far apart and by themselves, instead of families that help each
Only a few countries do this, and we do a horrible disservice to ourselves and our children with this mindset. Kids often don't see relatives, or
only one parent and a sibling. They don't get much playtime. They are unable to entertain themselves as they are designed to do,through free play and
We share a duplex with My ILs. I helped them with their aging mother and they help me with my son. GMIL got to stay home instead of being shipped to a
nursing home. And my sound forms great relationships, interacts with people, is outgoing, and speaks incredibly well for his age, because he is
surrounded by several people interacting instead of one at a time.
But you would be surprised how much flak we catch for this, by people insisting that we should be in seperate houses far from each other. For no good
reason. Even though we are perfectly happy with our setup.
If you actually talk to a lot of grandparents, they would love a hand in helping to raise their grandchildren. Other countries the whole family takes
care of the children. There is no dumping them into an institutional setting like daycare. The aunts, cousins, and siblings raise them.
I had a friend who came from Nigeria who moved all her sisters here because she couldn't stand the thought of anyone help raising her children but
So here we are: chemical diets, isolation, overworked, and not enough rec time. And we wonder why we are all depressed.
Because of all the isolation and distance, people just don't know how to interact with children. They don't know how to play, and socialize, They
don't know how to parent becuase often times, they have not dealt with a child till they have one of their own. Tell me, how does one not socialize
with a child until they have one? but it happens all the time.