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Originally posted by Skyfloating
It is my view that we, as a society, are undereducated on a subject that steers our entire lives. That subject would be...
Attention
It is my view that it is easy to control people who are unaware of how our need for approval and attention steers much of our behavior.
Look Ma! No Hands!
As children we crave our parents attention and are hurt when they withdraw their attention. In this way they can play us by rewarding us with different types of attention (hugs, gifts, spending-time, love) when we do what they want us to do and punish us by withdrawing different types of attention when we dont do as they say. Early on getting approval and attention and avoiding disapproval or attention-withdrawal becomes a matter of survival. We need our parents food and shelter afterall.
Later in life we seek the attention and approval of our spouses, our bosses, our employees, our colleagues. Thus needy, we can be played accordingly and become pawns in other peoples games.
This does not only happen on an individual scale but in all and every aspects of the world we live in. Corporations seek attention. Marketing is nothing other than seeking attention. Politicians seek attention. Becoming a superstar is all about getting attention. Countries seek attention. Members of this website seek attention. Attention here is counted in number of thread replies and stars.
In this sense attention is the No.1 commodity, more valuable than money, energy, resources...because those things naturally accompany gaining attention.
From a certain perspective, all of life can be seen as many, many different methods to get attention. The assertive and agressive force gets attention by standing out. But its victim gets at least just as much attention in its calls for pity.
An Experiment
Stop on a busy street and look upwards...
notice how other heads start looking upwards too.
Thats how easy it is to steer other peoples attention. Most people not being self-determined but "on automatic", this is easy to do.
Originally posted by Skyfloating
Ive trained myself - in all earnesty - not to react too quickly to other peoples motions and demands. I have found it to be a useful tool in not getting swept away by the constant stimuli from outside, but remain centered and prioritized.
[edit on 2-2-2009 by Skyfloating]
Originally posted by Skyfloating
I come online here and see all these threads demanding immediate attention. When I see a thread in ALL-CAPS and EXCLAMATION MARKS!!!!!!! I make a deliberate point in not clicking on it first (if ever) and instead seeking out something that interests me.
Originally posted by fooffstarr
She did it because she craved attention and wanted people to worry about her and make a fuss etc etc.
Of course, with a lie so big, it came unglued after a short period of time. And now, thanks to her idiocy and the wonderful acts of karma, she has no friends and a family who has disowned her.
Originally posted by Skyfloating
I´d take this even a step further in saying that those who crave it too much are less likely to get it and those who do care about it but dont crave it, become that center.
Originally posted by Skyfloating
Lets put it this way: You say it cant be taught, I say it can. I guess we're both right. It cant be taught the way math is taught. But it can be taught the way social skills are "taught".
Originally posted by Byrd
Except... as a moderator... that might indicate a thread that has a potential for turning into a flamefest -- either on the original poster or because the topic is controversial. I click those first to find out what direction the thing's going and whether it's just someone with technical difficulties or someone with a rather rabid agenda.
The Watchmen can't afford to NOT look at what the crowd is focusing on.
Originally posted by violet
What you might have meant, may have been those who are demanding of it are less deserving? And a person who's alot less obvious or shows more class by not acting this way is more deserving? With that I would agree.
Also some people like myself, have a limited attention span. I could never sit through a school assembly, long speeches, someone who talks non-stop. I start tuning them out.
My husband would complain the xmas tree lights are reflecting on the TV and he wants it unplugged. But for me, I can't see the lights (I do after he points it out) I tune them out, and can quite happily watch the TV and never see the lights or all the other bulbs reflecting he complains about.