posted on Jan, 28 2009 @ 05:44 PM
this is the most difficult thing to go through.
i have done it twice with my parents.
When my father was ill with cancer, i said goodbye to him at home, before he left for the hospital. I didn't go to the funeral. I wanted to remember
him the way he was, full of life.
When my mother was ill with cancer, i was at her bedside, yet i didn't say the things that i needed to say. She talked with me openly about her
funeral plans, and all things to be done after her passing, but I was in denial and didn't want to listen.
I regret that there were many things I truly wanted to say to her, but never did. I went to the funeral for her, but I regreted that too, as she had
asked for no services but a relative made arrangements for one anyway, and I have the picture in my head of my mother in a coffin instead of alive and
speaking to me.
Funerals are for the living, not those who have passed away. I have always felt disgusted by those who can find the time to pay respects after someone
passes, but could not find the time in life.
If you can make only one trip..do it while your father still lives.
Look into his eyes and hold his hand while you talk to him. Make the last moments you have together count, for the rest of your lives here, and what
you take into the next.
My belief is that you can only take knowledge, experience, and love with you into the next existence...
It's better to give him that love now.