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Originally posted by _Phoenix_
I'm not a psychic.
But I see your in pain. You can get through this!
What do you "want"? Do you want to leave him and be free of him? And how would he feel? Is he violent? Or kind?
Originally posted by MCoG1980
reply to post by dreamingalittledream
I dont think anyone here can really advise you what to do - that is up to you. I went through similar. I was with someone 8 years, 5 of those years i was with him because i didn't want to hurt him, and i was scared that if if this was the best it would ever be and would i ever find someone who could make me happpy. A friend once told me, if you are with him out of love for him, then stay, if its through not wanting to hurt his feelings then thats unfair and should leave him. Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind.I was not only cheating myself out of finding true happiness, I was also preventing someone else from giving him that.
I left and never looked back. Please be true to yourself but as you say there is a child involved so i understand your situation is diffrent. Listen to your heart, hope you sort your problems out either way.
take care and best wishes
I dont want to lose him but at the same time dont want to be with him and am afraid i wont find anyone else because of our child.