posted on Jan, 16 2009 @ 10:57 AM
I've been there...At freeway speed in cars, and in private. never hit her though., just blocked a few blows and flying articles., Thick glass
ashtrays hurt when they are pitched overhand , FYI)
I know a bad temper can be devistating, Like a shark on a feeding frenzy...past the point of no return...
The one incident that was "special" was when I took a 6 way AC strip, full force to the back. ( the 6 plug box was the end that hit me, so the extra
weight made for a good head speed as the cord was swung.)
Unfortunately, I was wearing my thickest leather jacket, and although I felt a good impact, there was no pain.
As I 180'ed to prepare for what may come next, I started laughing. She was so gone, and since the thing didn't hurt, I couldn't help myself,
seeing her charging up and furious.
That however, was a big mistake. I guess laughing at someone who is trying to hurt you and gets in a solid whack with a 6 plug extention, just
invokes more anger, If that is possible.
On the next lunge, I countered, grabbing the box and a forearm, and escorted her out of my studio and locked the door.
What happened next was totally wrong.
Her daughter was upstairs, and heard the rukus and called the 3 digit help number.
Withing 10 minutes, I had two officers knocking at my door.
I made a few comments and waited until they threatened to break the door before I unlocked it.
I exp[lained that, " no I did not hit her", and that I helped her exit the room and locked the door to seperate any further potential exchanges, and
that yes there was some loud verbal intercourse, but I had no Idea they would be called.
Then, the inquiring officer turned to her and asked, "did you hit him?"
She said yes. The next question was like,"with you hand?, fist? an object? She answered that she indeed swung an "extention chord" at me.
He asked to see it, and I retrieved it from where I set it down.
Now that she had waived her 5th, I was asked to corroborate her story and to show how and where I was hit.
By now, I knew that there was no point in deferring, since the law states someone will be taken at every domestic violence call that is determined
physucal or within the code, which as we all know is just interpretation for the most part.
So a grabbed the plug end where you would insert it into a receptical, and swung it, showing him how the 6 plug block hit, and where on my back.
He gave a "Wow!" look and I did continue with, it didn't hurt, and I defused the situation imediately, seperating myself from her to cool down.
Well, they went ahead and cuffed her, right in front of her daughter that called them, and took her.
Her daughter started freaking out, like how dare they, and how she couldn't believe they were taking her mom and not me, bla bla bla...
As they walked to the car, I told the daughter, "that's what you get for calling the police when your mom - (I use the word "Sybol") Sybols
She ran off all pissed off. I went back to my studio and turned up the music.
She was PRed later that day, but some woman came to the door with a restraining order form and a "Domestic Violence victims handbook", and asked how
I was, physucally, emotionally. The woman was some "Prom-Queen Runner Up" type, appointed by the court as a victims advocate or some stupid "Bling
Bling" job that obviously by the way she walked and her demeaner gave her a feeling of self-import, and she feined empathy and concern well.
When she finally left, I tossed her package in the round file and refused to sign the order, but that didn't matter. It was court imposed. (it
seemed there was a previous incident I had not known about.
My girl cost me some court fees and time, because when I went to wait for her release, I sat for litterally 3-1/2 hours outside at night on a curb.
That's how long it took to process her just to get release.
So, Although I have been there, I still have never hit a woman. I have blocked blows and flying objects, but not hit.
I found that laughing at someone intent on inflicting pain goes a long ways if you want to antagonize the situation.
Just Calm Down, are the three words I used after that, prior to her anger management course. (not ordered either, she took it upon herself).
Good for You are the three words I used after that.