reply to post by asmeone2
Star for yah Asmeone
I have said this all along to my own newly 20 daughter. The world is full of choices and options and no one seems to teach the youth how to make
choices that will reflect upon their futures in a positive way.
Its a NOW society. Immediate rewards and grossly delayed punishments/corrections.
The idea that time, effort and investment pay off seems lost in many kids I've talked to, worked with and helped raise. They don't seem to want to
nor seem capable of understanding the concepts. If they can't have or see the rewards NOW they lose interest and move on to the next big immediate
I am currently watching my 20 year old SMART daughter do this and it infuriates me and worries me. Even though she has been taught to consider
options, work hard for what she wants and to value the rewards she earns...society and peers have pretty much undermined my efforts.
She's had 22 jobs in this last year and it's everyone else fault that she can't manage. She did have an apartment, was enrolled in College, had a
job and the time and investment was too much for her...she couldn't maintain the interest and dropped out of it all to get a more immediate "fix"
of good feelings.
Now she's in a youth shelter, can't hold down a job, may not be able to get back into school, has debt at only 20 that I don't even have at 40...I
can't tell you how hard tough love is!!! I'm crushed at having to say no and watching her go without what I consider to be basic needs.
Her friends sadly, even the working ones are of the same mind.
She has the same outlook on her health...bi-polar and untreated. She'd rather get her "meds" in her own way without the effort of facing the
illness and investing effort into becoming healthy. Takes too much time to get it all together and the rewards don't come easily enough or aren't as
grand as she'd hope for.
many kids it seems make things far more complex than they really are, and I think this is to justify their behaviour as opposed to things really being
There are those kids however that get it. Either on their own or through tight families...I am hopeful that my girl will get it after she falls on her
face a few more times...it's just so hard to watch and not try to rush in and "save" her.
Faith comes in handy sometimes
It's sad that as a society in general we aren't taught that simplicity can be very rewarding and that excess doesn't equate success or
the value system is a bit shot I fear.