posted on Jan, 17 2009 @ 11:39 AM
I've never heard the term "defooing" before, but it is something that I've been planning and waiting to execute. My personal reasons are that
after 18 years, these people really don't feel like family to me. They put me down, they manipulate, they stick their noses where they don't belong
and they betray your trust to gossip about you. I don't think it makes me a bad person, I've tried to get along and fix it for at least 10 years.
It's not working and I've decided not to put up with it for much longer.
This doesn't mean I don't have people that I consider family...honestly I do. We may not be related by blood but we are all in a similar familial
situation, and we keep each other going. We know that when anything happens we can get help from one another and we always do anything for each other.
Something our blood-families haven't given us.
It's sad that I know I can't trust my parents with anything. It's going to be a tough thing to actually execute because they are always going on
about "going against family", but I know that if I don't they will continue their manipulative ways.
I don't think it's a phenomena, I just hope that people can develop better family habits.