Why am I like this

Originally posted by Gazrok
But, until you "get some" and get that confidence and feeling of being "like" others...you're going to continue to focus on how "weird" you are....

This does not sound good to me, I didnt actually mind being like this, and it is only on my friends constant never ending mocking, which makes me feel like this.

I am a virgin, but I have no interest for such stuff. And I am not gay.

I still love my thirst for knowledge.

[edit on January 14th, 2009 by peacejet]

To the OP, your normal and your doing what you are comfortable with, nothing wrong with that, I got married at 19 years old and regreated it ever since, and everybody told me to slow down and guess what I did not listen( and now wish I had) so thats my two cents and I'll tell ya what women arn't all that their cracked up to be( some probably are but most are not)

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Hello, and thanks for the appreciation, I have realized that I am normal and I am enjoying life, being myself.

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You're cured! As long as you are happy it doesn't matter what other people think. Maybe they just want you to be a part of their misery which is covered by partying, sex, drugs and whatever. You are more mature and have a quest for knowledge not ignorants.

Originally posted by Solarskye
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Maybe they just want you to be a part of their misery which is covered by partying, sex, drugs and whatever. You are more mature and have a quest for knowledge not ignorants.

They tried to lure me into smoking. But I had a strong self-control and remained firm. And I am very happy regarding my self-control.

This does not sound good to me, I didnt actually mind being like this, and it is only on my friends constant never ending mocking, which makes me feel like this.

I am a virgin, but I have no interest for such stuff. And I am not gay.

Part of you minds being like this...even if it's just your friends nagging you.
Never said you were gay. As I mentioned, I can relate...because I used to be just like you...

All I'm saying is that once that threshold is crossed, it's just easier to deal with life, and you don't have to lose who you are...I didn't...but I can only speak for myself... I wasn't that late to the party...lost mine at 17, but my old roomate was even more like you, and for much later...(I think), his mid 20's....before he finally got it, and certainly helped him too. I used to always wonder about him...kinda unnatural for a 20+ single guy to not own one stitch of Porn....

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I see your point, Ill try socializing with friends, maybe that will help.And I mentioned that I am not a gay, because, sometimes doubts like this arise.

But a big no for porn.

[edit on January 16th, 2009 by peacejet]

But a big no for porn

Certainly your right to choose...but if you're honest with yourself, don't you kind of picture certain things in your head? So...is a graphic 2d representation of that somehow morally corrupt? I'm betting the no porn idea is more of a religious and/or upbringing origin than true morality...

If you can honestly say that you don't ever think about it...then in that case, you may have something physically/mentally wrong there (and I'm serious on this, do some online research into it)... while you may feel you're being "moral", there can be physical consequences for fighting mother nature...and she's a sore loser....

Originally posted by Gazrok

I'm betting the no porn idea is more of a religious and/or upbringing origin than true morality...

Correct.

If you can honestly say that you don't ever think about it...then in that case, you may have something physically/mentally wrong there (and I'm serious on this, do some online research into it)... while you may feel you're being "moral", there can be physical consequences for fighting mother nature...and she's a sore loser....

I think about it sometimes, but as you mentioned, morality and upbringing. And also, this is also the age in which I have to study well to achieve my ambitions. So, my ambition is always in my mind

[edit on January 16th, 2009 by peacejet]

Porn is only knowledge until you can put it into practice. And love is not something you can learn. It just happens.
Living in the mind is not healthy imo, at least not all the time. If it fulfills you for now that is great. Go learn as much as you can, but until you can actually "use" it, it is just a collection like anything else.
If your are completely fulfilled by your own company and a quest for knowledge there is nothing wrong with that, but don't forget that people can teach you just as much about yourself as you can.

theres a saying your only as good as you 5 closest friends
meaning that if you hang out with a better crowd of people you will find your shelf with less problems and troubles

its okay to not wanna have sex yet there really isnt that big of rush for some its more important than others
you probably don't wanna take allot of stuff on this website all to seriously
otherwise you might get afraid to live your own life
there are tons of people that think just like you do go out try to find some
as you get older you realize that friend are important but are always changing you will meet new people and lose track of others

you should go out and have some fun just dont get carried away goto the movies out to the beach whatever your young have some fun and dont spend to much time worring about what others think you can only control what you think