During school I was often the target for bullies. What I found was that bullies like to stick together, because apart they are weak. So what I did was the following. I don't reccomend this as it is the wrong thing to do but it worked.

I singled out each and every bully when they were alone and viciously attacked them. I threw one down a flight of stairs. I beat one's head against a toilet bowl, I threw one into a locker so hard he had to go by ambulance to a hospital with a concussion, I took a 2x4 to one bullies knees in wood shop, and another I beat repeatedly in the head with a basketball.

The principal called my father and told him to tell me to back off as I was hurting kids. The principal knew who I was targeting and knew they were the school bullies but had to do something. I received a 3 day suspension with a suggestion that it not be a punishment. I was not grounded and had a small vacation out of it.

When I returned to school I noticed a dramatic decline in these bullies attitudes towards me. Most of them avoided me completely and none of them would attempt their previous tactics against me. I don't reccomend violence, as violence often begets more violence. But in my personal instance it worked quite well.

When i was a kid i was a big bully. My target was who ever was weak. The kids who i thought would be a challenge to my pride, i made friends with. I did that in case i would be challenged. And that's not a good thing for a bully. A good bully always know who is the target and who is not.

When i think back on what i have done i really feel sorry for the kids i pushed around just for my amusement. Its really sick to think about.

But back then i didn't know what bullying could do to a person. The effect of my work was all that mattered. You dont learn until it hits you in the face. The bad part is that a lot of people dont even learn from their own actions. They just keep on going. And wonders what is wrong with the other guy.

Its like...... cant he or she take a joke. That's all they can comprehend from their bullying.
That bullying can have a consecuens is not something a tough guy thinks about. He might think about it but the effect is all that matters. His image is more important.






[edit on 27.06.08 by spy66]

Reply to: SPY66 (Repy to: button once again has failed!!)

When i think back on what i have done i really feel sorry for the kids i pushed around just for my amusement. Its really sick to think about.

At least you have admitted this as a "Personal problem of Adolescence and an incorrect act." Which is commendable by all standards of repentance of the fact.

I went to my 10th year Grad reunion, by the time it had came around, I was in college and had slender-ed up as well as gained height, as so many of these scenario's seem to do.
I was, by then, a true "Biker Type", with the whole garb thing going on, people that harassed me back in the day were now approaching me with the "Apologies" of them having done what they did, and I didn't raise a stink, just wanted to say "Why couldn't you be this friendly back then?" to them, but figured it as a redundant topic, because of the day and age of the events when they had taken place. For the most part, because I did end up graduating from the school that I had initially first attended, became friends with them all, but still haven't been able to forget the thing's of the past, which is now dilemma and not their faults.

It is amazing how we are apt to do such thing's when we are young and impressionable, it is the primary reason for me having raised my children with the knowledge of restraint and compassion for such individuals of this abuse. And I am happy to report, "I am a better person for having done so, and so are my kid's!"

Thanks for your response post SPY, and I am sure you have been forgiven by way of your testimony today!! "You old 'Bully'!!!"

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AshleyD,

Strangely, once I blossomed around the age of 16/17 was when girls started giving me a hard time or began trying to pick physical fights. But before that people generally left me alone either out of pity, nervous fear of my weirdness, or the need to keep it friendly so they could copy off my homework.

You sound just like the girls I would've defended during these times of confrontation. Didn't date them or anything like that, but one thing is for sure, "They are beautiful as of today, and they still consider me their friend as well!!" Hubba-Hubba!! LOL

And it is kind of strange that most of my life I have bee the understudy to the books and the world, with different interests and need for knowledgable medias.
Most of teh "geeks" ( I don't like to call anyone that, but for description for this discussion, I'll use it.) are now very educated and beautiful individuals, so, "Suck on that egg you 'Bully's' out there!!