Originally posted by NovusOrdoMundi
Would they care about my loss as much as I am supposed to care about theirs?
I'd have to say they wouldn't, and neither would most people. Hell, if I had a son, and he died under the same circumstances in the same manner as
John Travolta's son, I'd be willing to bet that I wouldn't get near the news coverage and remorse as he has gotten.
How sad that we equate news coverage with caring.
If John Travolta knew you and your family – even without really knowing you – then why wouldn't he care as much about your loss as people care
If for instance you were a member of the same gym as him, and worked out at the same time for years but without saying much more than "hi, how are
you" to each other. And then he heard that you had suddenly and unexpectedly lost a sixteen-year-old child. Don't you think that he would be
touched? That he would for a brief moment experience your pain and in doing so would be drawn to express sympathy toward you?
Maybe he wouldn't, maybe John Travolta is one of those unfortunate people without the gift of empathy. I don't know him. But most of us experience
sadness when we hear a sad story, and most of us transfer that feeling to the people who are actually affected. Media coverage of celebrities just
creates the strange situation where millions of people know more than we need to know about a certain few, so millions of people hear of and
experience the losses of those few. Since the relationship isn't reciprocal, they have no way of directly expressing sympathy, so they comment about
how sad it is online.
To answer the question: there is no reason why you should care. But I think it's very understandable that so many do, and I think for most the caring
would happen whether he was a celebrity or not. The only difference celebrity makes is in how many people are aware of his loss.